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泛依婷 Stefany Valentine

@booksbystefany.bsky.social

I write books⤵️ FIRST LOVE LANGUAGE (Out now!) WHEN WE BECOME OURS (Out now!) LOVE MAKES MOCHI (Feb, 2026)

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泛依婷 Stefany Valentine@booksbystefany.bsky.social · 12mo ago

As an adoptee in reunion, I find myself navigating another dynamic--being the caretaker of an aging mother. I feel like the timing of this reunion has forced me to jump into the deep end without wading in. Now I'm caring for the mother who never got a chance to care for me.

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine@booksbystefany.bsky.social · 12mo ago

Im dyslexic. Now that I'm in Taiwan learning Mandarin, my brain does that dyslexia buffer thing more often. Like I know I'm looking at words, but I can't read them. So I have to start my brain engine like 3 times before I can start comprehending what I'm seeing.

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine@booksbystefany.bsky.social · 12mo ago

The cutest thing just happened. I taught my bio mom that in America, we say "thick" to mean that someone is fat in a complementary way. A couple days later, she still remembers this and says "my legs are thin but yours are...thick". Its just so freaking amazing to have a biological mom💖💖🥰

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine@booksbystefany.bsky.social · last yr.

I feel so defeated as an adoptee every time I see another viral "we adopted an (insert non white race here) baby" video. Yet when ADOPTEES (not adoptERS) speak up about our real experiences, we get told to shut up, we get called ungrateful, and our stories sure as shit don't go viral.

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine@booksbystefany.bsky.social · last yr.

Despite genetically not being a likely candidate for a learning disability, I have dyslexia (and dysgraphia). But it wasn't until I realized that adoptees are 3x more likely to develop a learning disability that I really started to unpackage how deeply adoption trauma has impacted me

泛依婷 Stefany Valentine@booksbystefany.bsky.social · last yr.

#BIPOCQTchat Actually, I'd love to support YOU! If you're an adoptee and want to break into traditional publishing, im hosting free monthly webinars for adoptees who wanna build community and raise our voices! Fill out this form: docs.google.com/forms/d/1u0E...

Adoptee Author Webinar

Per the feedback I received in May, there were some concerns with the adoptee author webinar being a safe space for adoptees only. To ensure that all participants are adoptees, please fill out this fo...

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Sonido Reyes@sonidoreyes.bsky.social · last yr.

Last question : shameless self-promo! How can we support you and your work? #BIPOCQTchat

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泛依婷 Stefany Valentine@booksbystefany.bsky.social · last yr.

#BIPOCQTchat I think of the next generation. What can I do to leave this world better than when I found it? Also, there's room for mixed emotion. Pride, peace ans joy for finally accepting myself for who I am. And rage, remorse, and longing, for what could've been if I hadn't grown up Mormon lol

Sonido Reyes@sonidoreyes.bsky.social · last yr.

question 5: Pride is as much a protest as it is a celebration. What is one way you balance both, or how would you like to? #BIPOCQTchat

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泛依婷 Stefany Valentine@booksbystefany.bsky.social · last yr.

#BIPOCQTchat omg I mean everything I write is influenced by my identity. But I always try to think of future generations who have to experience difficult things like queerness in high demand religion, adoption trauma, being mixed race in a world of boxes etc. Its about uplifting minority voices!!

Sonido Reyes@sonidoreyes.bsky.social · last yr.

question 4: How does your identity influence your writing style or voice? #BIPOCQTchat

a graphic that reads: #BIPOCQTchat 4. How does your identity influence your writing style or voice?