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Psychologist. Personal thoughts, not professional advice. An account for therapists.

This is an AI summary of Gabbard’s “The Exit Line.” It is completely wrong and interprets the meaning of the paper backwards; Gabbard’s work states the exact opposite. AI is not an expert, it’s more like a con artist. “Artificial” Intelligence indeed.

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Psychoanalysts can be arrogant. By interacting only with each other, they become increasingly certain of the correctness of their ideas. Consequently, each challenge from outside the discipline results in an ever-tighter “circling of the wagons” and an increase in defensive denial. - R. Bornstein

“When I came out to the waiting room, he [the patient] looked deeply shocked and said, “You don’t look like Glen Gabbard!” I told him I hoped he could go on with our consultation despite his disappointment.” - Glen Gabbard

Although in plain English the word 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑓𝑟𝑜𝑛𝑡𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 has a connotation of adversarial belligerence, confrontation as a therapeutic technique should be carried out with courtesy and tact and, above all, with genuine curiosity. - Frank Yeomans

“I’ve sometimes jokingly said that your functioning as a therapist could improve 31.6% if you would just substitute one word for another…’Both, and’ is one way, or ‘also’ vs. ‘really.’” Saying or thinking, ‘What you’re really feeling is…’ implies what you’re thinking is false. - Paul Wachtel

1/2 “Where analysts talk about unconscious processes, nonpsychoanalytic branches of psychological science employ a different label, 𝑖𝑚𝑝𝑙𝑖𝑐𝑖𝑡, in the belief that this term is more value neutral, scientific, and empirical…”

Many intuitively resonant ideas and common cultural notions come from the psychoanalytic tradition (e.g, identity crisis, inferiority complex, defense, projection) but are often not seen as psychoanalytic. There is an idea that if it makes sense, it isn’t psychoanalysis. - Nancy McWilliams

Alpha function acts on the data from a person’s total emotional experience…it renders this emotional experience comprehensible and meaningful…By naming it alpha function, Bion hoped to be able to keep the concept open to avoid the premature imposition of meaning. - Joan & Neville Symington

“My clinical experience with treatments that seemed to founder…because conflict and psychic pain that should have been verbalized were instead being expressed largely through somatic discharge.” - Joyce McDougall

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A patient communicates on three channels (verbal, non-verbal, reactions evoked in others). The therapist communicates this way, too. Thus, it’s vital for a therapist to believe in their approach. If the therapist speaks inauthentically, 2 out of 3 channels will be playing something different.

🧵 “In much of contemporary psychotherapy, 𝑒𝑥𝑐𝑒𝑙𝑙𝑒𝑛𝑐𝑒 is a dirty word. In many programs focused on so-called evidence based treatment - which has become a synonym for manualized or at least simplified treatments - excellence is relevant only to writing the manual…”

𝐸𝑥𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑖𝑎𝑙 𝑛𝑜𝑡𝑎𝑟𝑦 𝑝𝑢𝑏𝑙𝑖𝑐…my fanciful term for perhaps one of the most frequent and fundamental of all transferences: the need to share life experiences with someone else…Our experiences need to be shared, confirmed, ratified…after which we somehow feel different about them. - James S. Grotstein

A joke tells of two analysts who meet on the street. One says to the other, “Hello, how are you?” The other wonders darkly to himself, “I wonder what he means by that?” - Herbert Schlesinger, 𝘌𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 & 𝘉𝘦𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴

“We don’t refer to people based on their theoretical allegiances. We refer to people based on our sense of their character.” - Lee Grossman (2023) We are all more human than otherwise and, in the consulting room, we are probably more ourselves than otherwise.