Update on this mess. I gave her one last chance since she had separated from her actually violent EX because he had bruised her. We had fun just hanging around in places, for a few weeks. Very casual stuff, eating dinner etc. Mostly trying to be her friend. Then she calls me middle of the night...
I really tried being her friend for the longest time but all it resulted in is me being used or hurt. Not a real way to spend time with a "friend".