Most adoptions don’t happen because of this. But occasionally someone says they didn’t want their child. But why then does the child have to leave and lose their entire family? Why doesn’t the person who doesn’t want the child leave and lose their family instead of the child?

When I hear adopters say how selfless the ‘birth’ mother was to give her child a better life, I always think - why weren’t you selfless and help her so her child and her could stay together and both have a better life. #adopteevoices #childwelfare

Everyone is born with a birthright to know who they are. Tragedies happen that cause people to search for their identity and family — in adoption, it’s done to them on purpose. You don’t do this to someone on purpose. It’s cruel. #adopteevoices #adoption #adopteerights

“You are the expert on your life, your healing, and what you need. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for healing the way you need to.” #SupportSurvivors #mindsetmotivation #support defendsurvivors.substack.com/p/therapy-th...

Another intercountry adoption memoir, from Sun Yung Shin, is out: "'Adoption is often promoted as purely humanitarian,' she added. 'But there can be a widescale theft of people’s lives' — severing connections to family, history and genealogy." sahanjournal.com/arts-culture...

Author Sun Yung Shin unpacks the cultural loss of transnational adoption in new memoir ‘Heart Eater’

This weekend: the Selby Ave. Jazz Fest and South Asian feminist art in St. Paul; Twin Cities Maker Fest and Cedarfest in Minneapolis.

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One decision was made for me before I was old enough to have any say in it. In Part 3 of this 5 part video series on Adoptee Identity Rights, I explore what happens when a decision made about a baby continues to control that person’s rights decades later. #adopteevoices youtu.be/Maqz962io8M?...

The One Decision That Changed My Entire Life Forever | Part 3/5 Adoptee Identity Rights Series

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Too often what ‘supporting survivors’ means is getting the survivor to change something about themselves but what survivors most often need is the circumstances and people around them to change.

“What the world owes you is support—compassion, patience, protection, and care. You deserve to rest without guilt. You deserve time and space to find your way through what you should have never had to endure in the first place.” #healing #support defendsurvivors.substack.com/p/worthiness...

Defend Survivors Worthiness Wednesday | You Deserve Rest, Not Pressure ✨

Quote Of The Day | September 3rd, 2025

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A child's need for care can be fully met without hiding and rewriting who that child is. So there was never a reason to put all of us through this and make us search and wonder about basic information that others readily knew - it was a choice. A cruel choice. #adopteevoices

A child’s need for care can be fully met without hiding and rewriting who that child is. So there was never a reason to rewrite my identity. There was only a choice to. #adopteerights #adoption #childwelfare #IdentityMatters #humanrights defendsurvivors.substack.com/p/caring-for...

People need to be educated to not victim blame instead of educating survivors on what they ‘should’ve’ done. #stopvictimblaming #victimblaming

Tragedies happen that make people wonder what happened to their family and search for them. This is done to adoptees on purpose. It’s so cruel because the answers we search for are right there but they sealed. You don’t do this to someone on purpose. #adopteerights #adoption

The state had the right to make sure I was cared for. It did not have the right to erase that little girl who was born, permanently rewrite my life and identity, seal it, and make me beg for my own information. #adopteerights #humanrights #adoption defendsurvivors.substack.com/p/caring-for...

If we give all the supposedly happy untraumatized adoptees a clap 👏 and all the adopters that according to them did everything perfect a good star ⭐️ — will they go away and let us focus on the people hurt by adoption? #listentosdoptees #adopteevoices

The problem isn’t that adoptees are angry - the problem is that everyone else is not angry that we were erased and our lives permanently altered. #adoptee #adopteevoices #adopteerights

Daily reminder: adopters are not the authority on adoption. Listen to adoptees. #listentosdoptees

Someone who babysat for an adopted child now thinks they are the expert on adoption and leaving their opinion on adoptee posts. Everyone thinks they are the experts on adoption - they are not. Listen to adoptees. #listentoadoptees #adopteevoices

It’s horrific when someone goes missing and family has to search and wonder if they’re okay. But this is everyday for adoptees - except no one is helping us look. Instead we are looking for answers easily known and often concealed by others. #adopteevoices

Adopters think they are the authority on adoption - they are not. #listentoadoptees #adopteevoices

Adopters continually prove through their own words why they should not be caring for a child. #listentoadoptees #coercivecontrol #adopteevoices #adoption

Before you tell a survivor to focus on gratitude, ask if they have a safe home that they love? Good healthcare? Financial security? Support from family and friends? Perpetrator secured? The survivor doesn’t need a change in perspective - they need their reality to change. #supportsurvivors

“The state didn't just allow the lie — it issued the document that made the lie possible.” Part 2 of my 5 part series - Adoptee Identity Rights #adopteerights #humanrights #adoption #identity #adopteevoices youtu.be/JulfPECl9aE?...

I'm 60 And Just Found Out I Was Lied To My Entire Life | Part 2/5 Adoptee Identity Rights Series

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A decision was made when I was an infant. A signature severed me from my family. A signature let my birth certificate be falsified. A signature sealed the truth. There is no signature I can add to take any of it back. #adoption #adopteerights defendsurvivors.substack.com/p/caring-for...

New video - 1st of a 5 part series on how sealed adoption records are a human rights violation #adopteerights #adoption #humanrights #adopteevoices #institutionalbetrayal youtu.be/yGiP7PQGw74?...

Children are taught not to lie. We tell them the truth matters. Many of us were told lying is a sin. For a lot of adoptees, the first people to lie to us were our own parents. And our own state. #adopteerights #adoption #institutionalbetrayal defendsurvivors.substack.com/p/caring-for...

Child welfare means honoring and respecting the child — not permanently changing their life and identity. ✨ New blog #adopteevoices #adoption #adopteerights #humanrights #ChildWelfare defendsurvivors.substack.com/p/caring-for...

Real mothers don’t erase other mothers and then demand you see them as the ‘mother’. #mothers #adoption #adopteevoices #coercivecontrol

Your true family and friends won’t make you prove your pain. #supportsurvivors #believesurvivors #listentosurvivors defendsurvivors.substack.com/p/why-it-sho...

Adoptees deserve more than just the rights that don’t inconvenience someone else. #adopteerights #humanrights #adoption

Whenever I hear someone say, “They just don’t want to heal,” I always think, “Well, now we know why they are struggling.” This kind of judgment is not care; it’s control dressed up as concern. #supportsurvivors #healing defendsurvivors.substack.com/p/therapy-th...