It’s so natural for me to normalize and validate grief, including non-death losses, for others. Then I deny, downplay, and hide from my own. Let’s face our grief together and sit with it bravely. I’ll share mine in a comment. #grief #grieving

“I think the only way to meet the end is with curiosity. Not fear. not regret. Just a question- what now?” Alan Rickman #deathsky #deathdoula

“Your life is an occasion, rise to it.“ —Mr. Magorium’s Wonder Imporium

Grief transcends all time and space. Grief is seeing your loved one’s favorite coffee cup in the cupboard. It’s in passing their favorite restaurant. It fills the empty chair. It starts as a a cacophony and settles into an echo. #grief #loss #deathsky

Thanatophobia, the fear of death, can involve fear of the process (pain), fear of the afterlife (or lack there of), fear of being forgotten, fear that life is meaningless, but if I’m being honest mine is rooted in FOMO. You? #deathsky #deathpositive

People often tell me that their grief makes other people uncomfortable. So they avoid social interaction. Isolation is the worst thing for a grieving human. Let’s all try to be the friend who can be comfortable sitting in the presence of someone’s grief. Our job is to care, not to cure.

I love that my inner voice switches to be @johngreensbluesky.bsky.social ‘s voice while I’m reading #everythingistuberculosis

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Not Real News - Fighting Oligarchy, Executive Orders & A Fighting Irish

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There is no “right” way to die, hold a funeral, or grieve. When we engage in conversations about death we learn from each other, expand our ideas and understanding, and create a sacred space at the threshold between life and death. #deathsky #deathpositive

Death will not be the great equalizer until all bodies are equally valued in life. Here’s a great podcast episode with Dr. Kami Fletcher. #deathsky #deathpositive

It's official: The lunatics are now running the asylum.

Ash Wednesday: the day where people walk around with a memento mori on their foreheads. #deathsky #deathpositive #mementomori #ashwednesday

Natural burials feel powerful and intimate in a way that helps me appreciate the circle of life and death. What are the options for green burial in your areas?

Green Burial Options - Bellefontaine Cemetery

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It took seeing adult bullies to understand that my childhood bullies didn’t even really want to hurt me, they just wanted to feel powerful and how I felt about it wasn’t even in the equation. I can’t imagine someone not outgrowing that, but apparently it happens quite a lot!

Death in the arts shapes our perception. Is death inherently bad? Can death be kind? #deathsky #deathdoula #deathpositive

If your deceased loved one created a chatbot to emulate themselves would you want to use it? Are you comforted by the thought of an AI surrogate of your loved one? Would this ameliorate grief or cause maladaptive grief behaviors? #deathsky #deathdoula #grief #bereavement

Listen, things are fucked, but that doesn’t mean your accomplishments don’t matter. Wrote a book? Got accepted to a program? Recorded a song? One year sober? Whatever it is, share it. Maybe your joy will bring someone else a bit of joy, and we all need that.

What you post is your online legacy. How you react, what you say, and all your digital footprints will remain as long as the hosting platforms do. Is this good or bad? #deathsky #deathpositive

Thanatechnology is a conversation we need to be having with those nearing end-of-life. How do they want their digital remains- such as social media accounts, emails, blogs, and videos, handled?

There are choices beyond cremation or embalming. Alkaline Hydrolysis. Natural Organic Reduction. Green (Natural) Burial. Cryopreservation. What body disposition method appeals to you?

I would love to have the resources to start a community grief garden. Not only would it provide opportunities for individuals to acknowledge and actively process their own grief (including non-death losses), but it would bring people together to support each other’s grief in community.

Navigating Loss by Starting a Grief Garden

Grief gardening connects me to the awe and the magic of energy, which is undeniably everywhere in a garden.

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Beware the urge to spiritually bypass grief- yours or anyone else’s. If spirituality and religion are a comfort to you that is wonderful, but neither are a bypass or fast track through grief. Grieving is a process. #deathsky #grief

Today is an important day of remembering and honoring MLKJr. Nothing else.

I never turn on the tv during the day if I’m home. I will that day! It’ll be a great day for the background noise of HGTV or the Hallmark channel.

You can mourn losses like the loss of confidence, loss of security, loss of certainty, and loss of trust. These losses are real. The grief is real. #grief #loss #deathsky

So much loss and devastation and so much to grieve. I won’t attempt a positive spin, in this moment I can only bear witness to the pain and anguish.

Mark Hamill@markhamillofficial.bsky.social · 2y ago

Hard to process the devastation I’ve witnessed in the last two days. Still in a state of shock for those who have lost so much in such a short period of time. #NoWords 💔

I’ve found my New Year’s Resolution- Wonder, Whimsy, and Magic.

Women were the deathcare workers until medicalization and professionalism driven by commercialism deleted them from the field in the 1800’s. Women were never too weak for blood and death, they were erased once there was money to be made. 🧵