It was a pleasure to talk with Katie Baskerville about my peer-reviewed article on c*mdumps. A niche kink is not a disorder. A lot of queer men practice c*mdumping without negative effects, and as a way of celebrating their sexuality. www.gaytimes.com/a-beginners-...

A Beginner's Guide to Cumdumping

Katie Baskerville speaks with cumdumps and community holes to find out what it means to love the stranger. Plus: Everything you need to know about being a cumdump

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Have you heard of “homonormativity”? It is when LGBTQ+ people adopt a “correct” way to be LGBTQ based on the heteronormative society. In other words, it is a way for LGBTQ people to feel accepted by the heterosexist world by appeasing them.

It was great to spend some time with Julie Marshall today while she’s visiting London. Julie wrote a fantastic chapter on compulsive sexual behaviour and neurodiversity in our Routledge International Handbook of Sexual Compulsivity and Clinical Sexology.

It was great to see Ben Kaye today. He’s doing so much fantastic work on Chemsex for the community, academically and clinically. And we are planning a project together! Watch this space! 💜

I’m so pleased that my book “Sexual Diversity” was reviewed by Dr Aisling McAleese in the special issue of The Psychologist on sex “Let’s Talk About Sex”. ❤️ Here’s the link if you want to buy the book: www.karnacbooks.com/product/sexu...

Here’s my latest blog for Psychology Today: what is homonormativity? 🏳️‍🌈 www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talk... It is a brief summary of my article published in The Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal on this subject. This is the full article: www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.... Enjoy!

What Is Homonormativity?

Homonormativity can silently pull the strings of common psychological disturbances. It is crucial to be aware of it so that you can examine it.

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Happy Pride! 🌈🩷🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ It is important to support the smaller Pride events because queer people live in big cities and small towns. Today, I’m celebrating Basingstoke Pride. It was good to see Basingstoke MP Luke Murphy! 🌈

I’m honoured to have been invited to contribute to The British Psychological Society’s journal The Psychologist’s special issue: “Let’s Talk About Sex”. My piece is on exploring the landscape of eroticism 🩷 www.bps.org.uk/psychologist...

In my conversations with c*mdumps, one of the most discussed erotic cornerstones was anticipation. The preparation, and the thrill of knowing men are on their way are parts of the c*mdump’s arousal.

Exploring the landscape of eroticism… @silvaneves.bsky.social challenges normative assumptions in therapy… www.bps.org.uk/psychologist...

Do you want to know more about sexual consent? I was a guest on the ISSM Uncovered Podcast discussing this topic. It was recorded during the ESSM/ISSM World meeting in Porto earlier this year. Enjoy! www.issm.info/meetings/iss...

It was amazing to attend World Pride in Amsterdam 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🇳🇱🌈 World Pride is important because all LGBTQ+ people on the planet should live free of oppression, discrimination, pathologisation, without fear of murder, and without shame 🌈

It was fantastic to meet Dr Anthony Gifford in Birmingham! He published a study on cu*dumps just about one month before mine! And we came up with the same conclusions! Queer minds think alike, I guess! Perhaps it is the Summer of C*mdump Pride! 🌈🌈🌈🌈

I’m so very proud to have co-authored a peer-reviewed article with Dr Rafael Herrero in France’s leading scientific journal in sexology on compulsive sexual behaviours 🇫🇷

Some people believe that we, queer people, are an abomination and we will go to Hell. I think Hell is not in the afterlife, it is in the living. If you have hate in your heart, if you hate people who are different from you so much, that’s the real abomination and that’s living in Hell.

I’m so pleased that Queerty picked up on my peer-reviewed article in the Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal on c*md*mps! 🌈❤️💦 www.queerty.com/the-psycholo... @hudsonncorey.bsky.social @cagedpussyboy.bsky.social @misterpoundcake.bsky.social

The psychology of the "load count": Unpacking the surprising self-esteem benefits of a growing group sex kink - Queerty

Silva Neves says the practice is increasing since the rise in popularity of PrEP and DoxyPEP.

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A niche kink - or even a common kink - is not a disorder. Being “different” or “atypical” does not mean “deviant”, “dangerous” or “pathological”. It just means… different. In fact, “different” is the usual because sexuality is so diverse that there isn’t any “normal”.

My goodness! It looks like it is the Summer of publications for me! 😂 Another peer-reviewed article has just been published in the Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal. It is a theoretical essay on homonormativity. 🏳️‍🌈❤️ ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🩷🩵🖤🤎 www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10....

Homonormativity, queer “homo-norms”, and the sex lives of young gay men

This article is a theoretical essay based on clinical practice. The term “homonormativity” refers to society’s cultural “rules” of “normal” imposed on LGBTQ+ people as the “correct way” to be so th...

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C’est un immense honneur d’être publié dans la revue Sexologies sur les comportements sexuels compulsifs. C’est mon premier article écrit en français, et c’etait un grand plaisir de co-écrire cet article avec le brillant Dr Rafael Herrero 🇫🇷❤️🇫🇷❤️

Thank you to all my new followers and thank you for your interest in my latest article on c*md*mps 💖 My post on my c*md*mp article received over 4,000 likes 👍 and 14K shares ✈️ on Instagram! 💖WOW!💖 @toddverow.bsky.social @hudsonncorey.bsky.social @cagedpussyboy.bsky.social

It was fantastic to celebrate the book launch of “Women’s Health Made Easy” written by Dr Carys Sonnenberg, Dr Angela Wright and Dr Angela Sharma at The Vagina Museum. The book is a wonderful resource to improve women’s health care! 💖 Congratulations to the authors! 💖💖💖

I’m thrilled to announce that my new peer-reviewed article has just been published in the Sexual and Relationship Therapy journal. This article is an essay on “Cumdump as an emerging kink for queer men”. Here’s the article: www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10....

Cumdump: an emerging kink for queer men

Cumdump is a specific sexual behaviour that has increased in popularity over the last few years amongst queer men. It describes receiving semen inside the rectum, and sometimes in the mouth, from m...

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I wish France, my French friends and all the French immigrants living abroad a fantastic 14th July! Bon 14 juillet! 🇫🇷🎉💙❤️

I’m so chuffed that Queerty picked up my blog about gay men visiting sex clubs on Psychology Today and wrote their own article about it! www.queerty.com/a-therapist-... My original blog on Psychology Today is here 👇 www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talk... Enjoy! 🌈

A therapist explains the benefits for gay men of visiting sex clubs - Queerty

And it extends beyond simply getting your rocks off.

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Hello! I’m Silva Neves 🧠 A psychotherapist ❤️ Specialised in sex, relationships, trauma and grief 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ A member of the LGBTQ+ community and working extensively with the LGBTQ+ community 📚 An author 📣 A speaker ☀️ Thank you for connecting!

It was fantastic to march with UKCP at the London Pride! 🌈 It is the first year that UKCP is on the London Pride march. It is crucial for the psychotherapy profession to show up for Pride and queer people 💖🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️💖 Happy Pride to all! 🌈💖🌈

🌈🌈🌈Queer books save lives!🌈🌈🌈 🌈Buy queer books 🌈Read queer books 🌈Write queer books. ☀️We will never have enough of them!☀️ 💖Love Wins💖 T-shirt by Pagewings

It is almost the end of Pride Month and I have written another blog for Psychology Today! This one is on the benefits for gay men to visit gay sex clubs, another topic loaded with shame and not often discussed with nuance. Enjoy! www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talk...

Can Visiting Sex Clubs Be Good for Gay Men?

Visiting sex clubs regularly is frowned upon in our society, but there are surprising benefits for gay men.

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Pride events are important for social justice, wellbeing of queer people and having a sense of belonging. If you want to know more, you can read my blog in Psychology Today: www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talk... #pride #lgbtq #queer #lovewins

🌈🌈 Pride Month 🌈🌈 My new blog on Psychology Today: the benefits of attending Pride events for queer people. Enjoy! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🌈💖 www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talk...

The Benefits of Attending Pride Events for Queer People

Pride events are not just parties and fun. They provide a range of benefits that are good for queer people's mental health, including a meaningful sense of belonging and acceptance.

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