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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄

@goddessblade.bsky.social

Freelance editor. Fantasy and romance author. Transsexual Fairy Princess. 🧚‍♀️ ☸️ ☭ She/her. There is also love in the world. Editing services: maypetersonbooks.com/editorial My books: maypetersonbooks.com/books Patreon: www.patreon.com/maypeterson

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May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄@goddessblade.bsky.social · 3h ago

I’m just reflecting on my actual mother deadass telling me “violence is the solution” 😂 I love her

May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄@goddessblade.bsky.social · 4h ago

Her response when boys assaulted or harassed me was “well, you should just crush the will of the boys by beating them so bad that they fear you.” And when I was all “I can’t do that 🥺😢😭” she was left saying “huh, damn, that always worked for me. Back to the drawing board 🤔”

May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄@goddessblade.bsky.social · 4h ago

Something I’ve had a lot of time to think about I was a very feminine little boy and had quite a masculine mother. There was something really special about that relationship, for many reasons. Some of that was because of the contrast, but also the opportunities she had.

May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄@goddessblade.bsky.social · 5h ago

I like this line of argument about the compulsion to depict effeminacy as disordered when it could represent a social alternative—but I especially LOVE the description of a mother-son relationship as “feminine-to-feminine.”

There is no consideration given to relational transfers that are not the result of dominating or traumatic intromissions. There is no consideration given to the possibility that a boy could identify with his mother, and through processes of internalization and gender mobility constitute his own feminine subjectivity. There is no consideration given to relational exchange or intersubjective transfers that are founded in mutual recognition. The ways in which a feminine boy exceeds the norm is not approached as the possibility of transformation but rather as symptomatic of underlying pathology. For example, the possibility of a mother-son (feminine to feminine) bond that disrupts the symbolic order (of feminine to mascu-line) is only read as a sign of danger not as a site of possible social transformation. To wit, Chassegeut-Smirgel's (1976) prognostication that too much access to femininity can lead to "psy-chic death" for a boy (p. 349).
May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄@goddessblade.bsky.social · 5h ago

I’ve always been puzzled by this “difficulty attaching to the father” belief. Yeah, anecdote, but I was very attached to my dad—to both parents! This speaks to the misogynistic character of anti-effeminacy—here not just misogyny against the boy, but also against his mother.

Traditionally, one would be led toward the presumption that boyhood femininity is deadly because it represents a defense against separation from the mother, and anxiety about assuming a boy's proper place alongside his father within the symbolic order. I do not necessarily disagree with these traditional descriptions at least as they configure a feminine boy in relation to the prevailing symbolic. I do think feminine boys experience difficulty in separating from their mothers and attaching to their fathers. I do not, however, agree with the presumption that this mother-son father-son configuration is necessarily pathological, or that these marginal boys are on the margin only as the consequence of trauma or relational insufficiency.
May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄@goddessblade.bsky.social · 24h ago

This makes me feel physically sick. The pathologization and persecution of feminine boys often feels more nauseating and violating to me than even some naked transphobia. Something about hitting you at your youngest places. Feminine boys get treated so badly and almost no one talks about it.

Because extreme boyhood femininity is often a precursor of adult transsexualism, transvestism, and homosexuality, the author recommends early intervention for boys who meet specific behavioral criteria of gender disturbance. It is necessary to involve the parents in such treatment and to deal with the resistances they may have to recognizing and working on the problem as well as problems within the marital relationship that may affect the child's behavior. These boys are remarkably responsive to treatment given between the ages of 5 and 12, becoming more masculine in behavior and more comfortable with their identity as males.
Charlotte@fireantprincess.bsky.social · 4d ago

hey we are struggling financially this month, somehow my bank account is already at its limit and it’s still a week until new money comes in, and we need to buy some meds and groceries pls share

J O Y ❥ ✊🏾@kraehenherz.bsky.social · last wk.

Hey loves, my birthday is in two weeks and we’re still financially struggling while my wife is looking for a new job and I’m trying to work out my chronic pain situation and find therapy. It would be super nice if you decided to support us, if you have anything to spare 🫶🏾🖤✨

Reina Lim✨@artofreinav.bsky.social · 6d ago

Could we get more eyes on this? 💕 Alppy is a genuine sweetheart and they've been struggling so much. They need just a little more to reach their goal of being able to get dental care💕💕 About $61.

✨ Alppy ✨@mxalppy.bsky.social · 2w ago

I had to get emergency meds refills for my crohns which cost me a hefty penny. If anyone can help me with recovering funds for my dentist appointment coming up on the 24th, I’d appreciate it. I need about $375. Reposting helps a lot, too, if you can’t donate. ko-fi.com/missalppy

May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄@goddessblade.bsky.social · last wk.

Hot tip to younger trans girls If you’re in a group and feeling nervous about the people there, just find where the cis girls are hanging and chill w them They’ll love you

May “Bunny” Peterson 🦄@goddessblade.bsky.social · last wk.

There’s a particular experience to being a trans girl: I’m often the only trans person in a group BUT I’m frequently not the only GIRL And honestly that connection makes such a difference