Stop worshipping cis het allies - a hot take on rewarding basic acts of respect as radical allyship by LGBTQ communities and organizations: youtu.be/l2xKPctRGpM?...
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(What) Do We Owe Cis Het Allies For Supporting Trans Rights? As she floated above her adoring fans, like a goddess speaking down to mere mortals, Beyoncé concluded one of her 2023 Renaissance concerts with a quick acknowledgement of one audience member's sign that read "Trans is Beautiful." Queer…
(What) Do We Owe Cis Het Allies For Supporting Trans Rights?
As she floated above her adoring fans, like a goddess speaking down to mere mortals, Beyoncé concluded one of her 2023 Renaissance concerts with a quick acknowledgement of one audience member's sign that read "Trans is Beautiful." Queer fans celebrated Beyoncé's reading of the sign, with LGBTQIA+ media describing the act as "declaring 'trans is beautiful'" and that "Beyoncé shows trans support." Even Laverne Cox, the Black trans activist, actor, and author who…
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Center the voices of people affected by suicidality is suicide prevention.
The focus on suicide prevention is too narrow, it unintentionally silences those of us who live with suicidality. "You are loved" and "it gets better" just silences people, they don't cure suicidal ideation. Center the voices of the suicidal, stop talking at us & for us. youtube.com/shorts/EWXRX...
Suicide Prevention is Too Narrow of a Goal #suicidism
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Don’t Call It A Breakdown: Reclaiming My Life After Suicide Recently, a former colleague from University of Richmond dined at the vegan restaurant I've been working at for the past 18 months. I didn't immediately recognize them, but as I felt them stare at me from the booth they'd chosen to sit…
Don’t Call It A Breakdown: Reclaiming My Life After Suicide
Recently, a former colleague from University of Richmond dined at the vegan restaurant I've been working at for the past 18 months. I didn't immediately recognize them, but as I felt them stare at me from the booth they'd chosen to sit in, it slowly clicked within my brain who they might be. I snuck a quick internet search on my phone to confirm my hunch, but they noticed and seemed to perk up with eager excitement.
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White gays be like... "We're just like you!" (Sexist. Racist. Classist. Transphobic.)
Trans Voices on Suicide - a call for submissions, 42% Project youtube.com/shorts/CKjHo... Submit original written work about or informed by the subject of suicidaity, including essays, short stories, poems, calls to action, manifestos, testimonios, brief and accessible academic pieces, etc.
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I Wish I Never Told You That I Wanted To Die A stranger commented on my latest YouTube video speaking about my history of suicidality, something along the lines of "I also was targeted for bullying because I was a boy with breasts, but it didn't make me suicidal -- but I guess it did for you…
I Wish I Never Told You That I Wanted To Die
A stranger commented on my latest YouTube video speaking about my history of suicidality, something along the lines of "I also was targeted for bullying because I was a boy with breasts, but it didn't make me suicidal -- but I guess it did for you because you have a mental disorder." I deleted his comment the second I saw it and then closed comments on my YouTube channel.
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Trans folx searching for a new name -- we've got a growing list of resources for you! reclaimournames.com/transnames/ Suggestions for names, how to find new names, others' name choosing stories, research on how we change our names, etc.! #transgender
"Every Trans Suicide Is State Sanctioned Murder" - moving poem by @cavar.bsky.social on Protean Magazine: proteanmag.com/2024/06/27/e... #suicideprevention
Can the suicidal subject speak? There's too much talking at us, about us, and for us during #SuicidePrevention Awareness Month and all year-round. We should be at the forefront of the conversation, speaking for ourselves. youtube.com/shorts/iO7Zt... Checkout Undoing Suicidism book (Alexandre Baril).
#EnbyLife Journal is open for submissions from non-binary and gender diverse creatives from 1-7 September 2026. September's theme is TRIBUTE. Send us your poetry, microfiction (under 100 words), and art. More info at enbylife.net/submissions/
Supporting a trans friend in crisis can start with something simple: listen to them. You don’t have to fix everything. You can stay present, ask what they need, affirm them, and respect their autonomy. Here are some ways to support someone without automatically calling 988 or 911. 💜
@translifeline.org does important work that doesn't put folx in crisis at further risk! "The Problem with 988: A Report" translifeline.org/safe-hotline...
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The Problem with 988: How America’s Largest Hotline Violates Consent, Compromises Safety, and Fails the People This report critically examines the 988
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Lambda Legal@lambdalegal.org · 2w agoThis Suicide Prevention Month, we want every LGBTQ+ person to know that no politician or ban can erase your identity. If you are struggling, know that you are not alone. ❤️ @trevorproject.bsky.social — 866-488-7386 @lgbtnatlhelpctr.bsky.social — 800-246-7743 @translifeline.org — 877-565-8860
For Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, a highly recommended reading: "Undoing Suicidism: A Trans, Queer, Crip Approach to Rethinking (Assisted) Suic1de" by Alexandre Baril Available as a free e-book at temple.manifoldapp.org/projects/und... #suicideprevention
Undoing Suicidism | Temple University Press and North Broad Press
</br/>International Congress of Qualitative Inquiry 2025 Qualitative Book Award<br/> </br/>2024 International Association of Autoethnography and Narrative Inquiry Outstanding Book Award (Honorable Me...
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“Am I Trans Enough?” – What A Non-Binary Identity Has Taught Me The "am I trans enough?" impostor syndrome is back. What authority do I -- a non-binary-identified person who otherwise is read and privileged as a cis man -- have to launch a platform aimed at uplifting trans self-determination? A…
“Am I Trans Enough?” – What A Non-Binary Identity Has Taught Me
The "am I trans enough?" impostor syndrome is back. What authority do I -- a non-binary-identified person who otherwise is read and privileged as a cis man -- have to launch a platform aimed at uplifting trans self-determination? A parallel dilemma is doing racial justice and Black feminist work as a "florescent beige" mixed-Black person often mistaken for (and probably privileged) as a white man.
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Finally joined Substack! reclaimournames.substack.com Free to subscribe, just as the main website remains public: reclaimournames.com Next step is to identify funding stream to pay our guest contributors for their intellectual and creative labor. #transwriters
Grippy Sock Gang: Finding Myself In Crazy Places Recently, a co-worker recently made reference to "grippy socks" in the midst of a conversation about mental illness -- a common topic over which workers in the restaurant industry trauma bond. I stopped sweeping beneath the large fridge, shooting up…
Grippy Sock Gang: Finding Myself In Crazy Places
Recently, a co-worker recently made reference to "grippy socks" in the midst of a conversation about mental illness -- a common topic over which workers in the restaurant industry trauma bond. I stopped sweeping beneath the large fridge, shooting up straight to make eye contact with her. "What do you know about 'grippy socks'?" I demanded, searching my memory for stories of stays in a hospital psychiatric ward that she might have previously shared.
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This Ain’t No “Semi-Colon” Story, or Why I Spell Denise! with an Exclamation Point August 13, 2024 Look at Me! I left barely a scratch on the inside of my left forearm. Just testing out my capacity to endure the pain and willingness to cut deeper. I used my right index finger, my nails…
This Ain’t No “Semi-Colon” Story, or Why I Spell Denise! with an Exclamation Point
August 13, 2024 Look at Me! I left barely a scratch on the inside of my left forearm. Just testing out my capacity to endure the pain and willingness to cut deeper. I used my right index finger, my nails uncomfortably long but neglected as with several things self-care these days. I actually didn’t intended to break the skin, but ended up leaving behind two small translucent ribbons of my skin.
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42% Project: Uplifting Trans Voices on Suicide September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month. In recognition over the next few weeks (and beyond), The Reclaim Our Names! blog invites guest contributions from trans folx personally affected by suicide. We invite two-spirit, agender, trans,…
42% Project: Uplifting Trans Voices on Suicide
September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month. In recognition over the next few weeks (and beyond), The Reclaim Our Names! blog invites guest contributions from trans folx personally affected by suicide. We invite two-spirit, agender, trans, intersex, non-binary, and genderfluid people to submit original written work about or informed by the subject of suicidaity, including essays, short stories, poems, calls to action, manifestos, testimonios, brief and accessible academic pieces, etc.
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“Cutting Your Parents Off Isn’t the Answer” – What Was the Fucking Question? Refusing To Be Silent I keep returning to the topic of going no-contact with my family despite feeling self-conscious about publishing my pain for public consumption. I can't shake one troll's complaint about how…
“Cutting Your Parents Off Isn’t the Answer” – What Was the Fucking Question?
Refusing To Be Silent I keep returning to the topic of going no-contact with my family despite feeling self-conscious about publishing my pain for public consumption. I can't shake one troll's complaint about how frequently I criticized my parents for not accepting me on an online platform disguised as a job market discussion board for sociologists. Estrangement was still years off, as was my consciousness-raising around being a survivor of child abuse.
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If you're trans & estranged from family, could you share resources, readings, orgs, communities, etc. that have supported you? I'm thinking about what helped you make and go through the decision to go no-contact, and what has helped you process the subsequent grief, guilt, other negative emotions.
Trans and non-binary folx, I want to hear your name-choosing story! You can share your name-choosing story anonymously here or use the second slide's image QR code: forms.gle/dCBE8Yaj43e2... See my previous research and writings on trans names at reclaimournames.com #translivesmatter
Fiscal Sponsorship? Currently scheming a call for submissions to especially uplift trans writers and creatives of color, but not while asking contributors to do so w/o compensation. Launching non-profit is unlikely, but now giving thought to forging a fiscal sponsorship with an existing one. #qtpoc
Happy Birthday, Marsha! As I dig deeper into my research on trans names and naming conventions, I've wondered why more folx don't draw inspiration from trans history for their new names. "Why Aren’t More Trans Women Named After #MarshaPJohnson?" reclaimournames.com/2026/08/10/t...
Coming Out As Trans, Coming Home To Myself – By Arissa The proverbial breaking my egg wasn’t actually the first time I thought of having a different name that may align with me better. My name-choosing journey didn’t involve burying a deadname, but rather a reconciliation with my birth name even…
Coming Out As Trans, Coming Home To Myself – By Arissa
The proverbial breaking my egg wasn’t actually the first time I thought of having a different name that may align with me better. My name-choosing journey didn’t involve burying a deadname, but rather a reconciliation with my birth name even as I chose a new, gender-affirming one. Coming to Terms with My Name I have always been the quiet type, never wanting to stand out except having to because no one else can do the thing.
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Useful resource for trans folx choosing new names: The Black Names Project www.blacknamesproject.com/names My recent deep dive into the debates over Petra Parker's (trans femme Spider-Man) revealed an absence of an intersectional lens to understand trans names and (re)naming conventions. #qtpoc
In Defense of Basic AF Trans & Non-binary Names: reclaimournames.com/2026/08/20/b... The debate over how realistic the name #PetraParker is for a trans woman Spider-Man reveals some assumptions in the community about what constitutes a valid name change. We're overlooking diversity in name journeys.
Leave Petra Parker Alone! In Defense of Basic Ass Trans & Non-binary Names If you tried telling me -- when I was still a sociology & gender studies professor studying the health-harming effects of discrimination -- that I'd one day use my latest research (on trans names) to debate the merits of a…
Leave Petra Parker Alone! In Defense of Basic Ass Trans & Non-binary Names
If you tried telling me -- when I was still a sociology & gender studies professor studying the health-harming effects of discrimination -- that I'd one day use my latest research (on trans names) to debate the merits of a fictional, comic book character's name, well, I just wouldn't be able to imagine such a timeline or universe. But, I ended up staying up late last night, glued to posts on the Bluesky social media platform to follow discussion over a trans femme version of the character Spider-Man, named…
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I don't have quant statistics on this, but among the 500+ who shared their name-choosing stories with me, I was surprised how common staying close to one's given name was with new names. reclaimournames.com/2025/11/20/h...
Greg Dean@gregdean.bsky.social · 4w agoIt's not a huge sample size but I cannot think of a single example of a real trans person who just genderswaps their name. Seems to only happen in fiction.