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Emi Nietfeld

@eminietfeld.bsky.social

Journalist / author of "Acceptance" / Speaker / ex-Google engineer / Words @nytopinion @theatlantic @teenvogue @thenation @theinformation | emi@eminietfeld.com

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Emi Nietfeld@eminietfeld.bsky.social · 8mo ago

This year, the most luxurious kid's gift is... no gift at all! My latest for @thecut.com about the rich parents eschewing presents got surprisingly political. Join me on a journey into brownstone Brooklyn, homesteading Instagram, and "feminine energy." www.thecut.com/article/kid-...

The Parents Who Don’t Give Their Kids Gifts

While most parents struggle to stuff stockings, some well-off ones bask in the blank space under the Christmas tree.

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Emi Nietfeld@eminietfeld.bsky.social · 10mo ago

Excited for Class Not Dismissed this Monday about reporting on class - with the Economic Hardship Reporting Project! Speaking w/ @jiatolentino.bsky.social @alissaquart.bsky.social and more!! It's free! RSVP here: pp.events/bgAA6xxa

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The Economic Hardship Reporting Project (EHRP) is building a media that spotlights the stories - and the storytellers - often left in the shadows: the working-…

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Emi Nietfeld@eminietfeld.bsky.social · 11mo ago

Bi sees a model for surrogacy in the antiabortion laws that 'recognize and protect the right of a fetal life.' She thinks that when doctors see surrogates go against medical advice, they should report it to the police. Thanks so much to my expert @michelebgoodwin.bsky.social!

WIRED@wired.com · 11mo ago

Surrogate pregnancies are increasingly popular in tech circles, and the practice is expected to explode globally in the coming decade. It’s also shockingly unregulated. This is a story about what happens when it goes horribly wrong.

Emi Nietfeld@eminietfeld.bsky.social · 2y ago

You must read this absolutely gutting essay about DV and the fear of CPS removals that keeps moms trapped in abuse. About PTSD, veteran mental health, how racism hurts everyone. About trying to be a good human and not knowing how @moashort.bsky.social @thecut.com www.thecut.com/article/repo...

To Care for My Family, I Thought I Had to Hide My Abuse

I wanted to believe my children’s father wouldn’t hurt us. I wanted to prove I’d care for him no matter what.

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Emi Nietfeld@eminietfeld.bsky.social · 2y ago

The idea that indulging my 6 month old daughter’s selfishness now will inspire her future charity sounded as preposterous as putting Mountain Dew into her bottles in hopes she’ll love water later. thecut.com/article/teaching-kids-to-share-gentle-parenting-experts-sharing-children.html

The Parents Who ‘Don’t Teach Sharing’

Is this gentle-parenting trend accommodating kids’ developmental stages, or catering to their worst impulses?

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Emi Nietfeld@eminietfeld.bsky.social · 2y ago

Every Xmas, my mom made peanut butter/chow mein noodle mangers with red M&Ms in the center. She declared “That’s the baby Jesus!!” The older (and richer) I get, the more grateful I am for my mom’s lessons in giving. Grateful to @washingtonpost.com www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/20...

Perspective | As a poor kid I was ashamed of my mom’s shabby gifts. Now I get it.

Charity alone would never solve the problems that plagued my youth, but giving to others reminded me that I could help keep people from falling through the cracks.

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Emi Nietfeld@eminietfeld.bsky.social · 2y ago

For survivors who are already stigmatized and told not to talk about what happened... I feel it's so damaging to hear "don't discuss it" from a therapist. If people don't want to talk, no one should make them, but many of us have been desperate to share what happened to us

@karenkolbe.bsky.social · 2y ago

My profession is embarrassingly prone to faddish bullshit. This book is treated like a sacred text by so many therapists, but it’s honestly done a lot of damage, in large part due to its central argument that *talking* about one’s pain will make it worse. But talk therapy remains the gold standard.

@karenkolbe.bsky.social · 2y ago

My profession is embarrassingly prone to faddish bullshit. This book is treated like a sacred text by so many therapists, but it’s honestly done a lot of damage, in large part due to its central argument that *talking* about one’s pain will make it worse. But talk therapy remains the gold standard.

Emi Nietfeld@eminietfeld.bsky.social · 2y ago

“The Body Keeps the Score stigmatizes survivors, blames victims, and depoliticizes violence. While masquerading as care for survivors, it creates a hierarchy where marginalized victims are even more marginalized.” My latest, for @motherjones. www.motherjones.com/media/2024/1...

Emi Nietfeld@eminietfeld.bsky.social · 2y ago

I really wanted to talk about how the Matisse cover and title of "The Body Keeps the Score" do SO MUCH heavy lifting. You don't even need to read the book to have your "a-ha!" TED talk moment. All you have to do is see it at the airport and you're like "it checks!"

Mikey@knowledgeabledog.bsky.social · 2y ago

I couldn’t finish the book and agree with many points here. The author misses why fans are so defensive: the central thesis is psychologically powerful. The idea that the body holds an inbuilt history of trauma resonates deeply with survivors. Whatever the book’s flaws, that core idea holds merit.