So having griped about the vets and the bag, in fact the cremation service did a lovely job — the urn is cedar and smells wonderful, and the paw print made me a little teary in the best way. Bon voyage, my little bear. You were the best.
Welp, the emergency vet I took Lola to last week were pretty awful about the whole thing but at least the cremation service put her ashes in a fancy shopping bag I guess