And my second caveat in response to a lot of responses—this isn’t an argument that men being lonely isn’t happening. This is an argument that loneliness is not exclusive to men and that the reigning discourse around MALE loneliness is really about unmet expectations for women

My sense is that the “male loneliness crisis” is not really about addressing men’s emotional needs but rather the relatively newfound absence of having someone to perform domestic labor for you quietly in the background now that there is a longer gap between your mother and your wife doing it

Seeking recommendations for really good drugs. This reality isn't working for me, time to try a new one.

Uber driver ended our ride with "you deserve all the stars but I only have 5 to give" and what an adorable way to end a great evening

Mr Kipling Battenburgs are the twinkies of the UK

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A modest proposal: if your country was invaded, settled, or colonized by the UK, you should be able to settle as of right in the UK.

UK will discriminate against would-be students who are from persecuted groups. Palestinian? No visa. Christian from Pakistan or Iran? No visa. Woman from Afghanistan? No visa. Lesbian from Uganda? No visa.

Shoaib M Khan@shoaibmkhan.bsky.social · last yr.

The Home Office will restrict work and study visas from nationalities who are most likely to overstay and claim asylum. Visas will be rejected for individuals who fit the profile of someone who will go on to claim asylum and are from countries with high rates of asylum.

Very embarrassing for us to have such a low tariff from the US. Numeric proof the UK is the least cool country and voted ourselves out of the only friend group that will ever begrudgingly accept us.

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Current thoughts on the male loneliness/mental health crisis: I've had so many men come to me saying they feel useless/depressed. Often while I'm cooking them dinner, or drinking a drink I bought them because they wanted company. Have they tried doing... anything? No. Because they want me to fix it.

We got new work laptops for our area since the IT regulations prevent us doing our work. The laptops are Windows 11 with fancy new "security" defaults which... Prevent us doing our work. Who is buying laptops and wants to be barred from using any non-Microsoft app?

I'm reading a book that reads like AI in parts: sentences "look right" but are devoid of meaning. Is publishing so understaffed no-one reads the books, or has generative AI so damaged our ability to parse language this is the level of literacy in an industry dedicated to the written word?

Feels like we're going to hit the tipping point between "I wouldn't actually recommend ecoterrorism, but" and "is there any solution other than ecoterrorism available?" very soon

dell cameron@dell.bsky.social · 2y ago

these assholes are going to start a resource war

I once again simply do not understand people who love summer and welcome its arrival

Browsing fb marketplace for a sofa because everyone except me hates my beloved chaise longue. I have found... another chaise longue.

Evil Smile Evil GIF

Alt: Racoon rubbing its little paws together and grinning evilly

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Man we get beer, football, and pussy in the great lib conservative divorce?

I've found the good part of Leeds, and it's a bunch of poetry someone's laminated and cable tied to a fence at the dead end of a muddy desire path next to the river

Once again I must spend all day fighting the overwhelming urge to run into the sea. Give me back my gills you cowards.

My friend just told me "you're approachable the way a pitbull is approachable" and I will TREASURE this compliment

Someone should start a dating site for night people. "Seeking person to talk to when it's late and lonely, otherwise bearable."

Trying out the incense I got from the cathedral and no flat has ever smelled more holy (or been more smoky)

Increasingly beginning to think partners are actually just large substitute cats; this 6ft9 man has curled up and fallen asleep on me, I must not move lest he be disturbed and make sad noises.

How excited am I for my date with the world's cutest girl this weekend? Elbow deep disinfecting my bin for the first time in 2 years at midnight, that's how excited

Did anyone else have a fire rope growing up? A large rope that was kept in rooms eg under the bed, so that if you're trapped in the event of a fire you can go out the window easier?

UK rental/law people: my apartment building regularly has the fire alarms go off for hours at a time (normally 3-5) in the stairwell and halls. Presumably it's broken; what do I threaten the letting agents with to make them take notice?

Wore my tweed jacket to work and got told I should be the next Doctor

Earned my librarian status for the day by coming up with a word for my friend to make a charm of, after much confusion and debate (the word was "tits")

My body is not a temple, it is a disjointed manifestation trying desperately to reach platonic form through excessive ornamentation

Riley Black 🏳️‍⚧️ 🦕@restingdinoface.bsky.social · 3y ago

My body is not a temple, it’s an electric green goo pit that mutates whatever touches it

The rustling noises of a tiny menace happily exploring stopped and I turned around to see a cat with the most pathetic "help me human" face I've ever seen. Somehow, he had managed to get himself stuck in a coat hanger.