Loving Me Trans+ Domestic Abuse Service

@lovingmeuk.bsky.social

Qualified, confidential support, refuge and by and for service for trans & non-binary people experiencing domestic abuse in England (18+) 💜 https://linktr.ee/lovingme_uk?utm_source=linktree_profile_share&ltsid=d3e075e8-f26e-4b63-91c1-2ac3f94f3379

As trans people our tolerance for mistreatment can be higher due to our oppression and the external messages we receive. We have compiled some behaviours that may indicate familial abuse. If you’re living with family and it feels unsafe, call 07902 478958 or make a referral on our website.

Familial Abuse 
It shouldn’t have to be ‘just the way it is’ for trans peopleThere may be an expectation to fit gender roles and presentations not aligned with your identity 

Your family might force you into a marriage or relationship against your wishes 

Family may knowingly and consistently misgender and deadname you Your family may dictate who you speak to about your transition and make choices about how you present in front of others

Your family might police you in the home and outside, controlling where you go and who you see 

Your family may use slurs and derogatory language to refer to you and your gender

Our community is small and have limited support networks. If you know a trans+ person who is a victim of abuse your presence is valuable. Make sure to listen to their experience but don’t suggest what they do or say. It could endanger them. Make sure to signpost them to a DA service

Don’t advise what they say and do - It could endanger them 
Do signpost them to appropriate domestic abuse services (such as ours) 
Do keep their information and experience confidential 
Do listen without judgement respecting their wishes and needs