"I'm not perfect. I'm human. But I'm one person who is trying. Trying very, very hard. And that pisses some people off." I've fallen again. But I will rise once again. #Resilience

"Seriousness is a disease. So I threw a book together because it's fun, like a sandwich." I really am a writer. And this is not a short-term project. #AmWriting whothefami.substack.com/p/seriousnes...

Seriousness Is a Disease

I threw a book together because it's fun, like a sandwich.

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"It's not about the coffee. It's a meditation, a ritual, and an anchor for someone travelling." Bad energy in the cup? I feel it, and now I have to drink it too. whothefami.substack.com/p/its-not-ab... #Coffee

It's Not About the Coffee

Three things I look for, and why a morning cup is a meditation, a ritual and an anchor when you're travelling.

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"Have I become a glitch in the matrix? Zeroed out?" I'm a little lost right now, I must admit. But the path feels right. Being redirected. To I don't know where yet. #Limbo

"I realised I had nothing useful to say. Why say anything? What good will it do?" Learning the Southeast Asian art of silence. #Culture whothefami.substack.com/p/keeping-th...

Keeping The Peace

A voice room, a rude stranger, and learning the Southeast Asian art of silence.

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"ADHD is not a disability. It's a different perspective and it's my edge." I ticked no. He ticked the box anyway. Now I need a doctor to say I'm fit to drive. #ADHD

"I woke up wanting to say, you can't stop me, I'm on a mission from God. But she already fled. The kitchen is mine." On a mission from God. #BluesBrothers

"Why get stressed searching for the perfect place to sit when I can be here, watching the world move?" Coffee and cultural observation as mindfulness. #Mindfulness whothefami.substack.com/p/watching-t...

Watching The World

Coffee and cultural observation as mindfulness, discovered in the markets of Cambodia.

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The greatest act of rebellion is to breathe. Stand up tall and walk slowly under the sun. Thoroughly enjoy your life. Be grateful for it amidst all the chaos that life brings. Walking slowly, listening to music, basking in the freedom. That is the biggest act of rebellion. #rebellion

"Southeast Asia taught me all I really need is coffee, the safety of street food, genuine human connection, and an airport to get me out of dodge." Tired of being a walking money bag. #TravelWriting whothefami.substack.com/p/all-i-real...

All I Really Need

Coffee, street food, genuine connection, and an airport out of dodge.

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"I'm not a problem. I'm just the scapegoat. And all we want to do is stand in the sun and shine." To say people with ADHD are misunderstood is an understatement. #ADHD

"I let go of worrying about meditation. I just existed and watched." Something has shifted. I feel in sync with this city. #Mindfulness whothefami.substack.com/p/meditating...

Meditating With My Eyes Wide Open

This morning I meditated with my eyes wide open at a coffee shop overlooking the market, many locals curious about me, I think simply because I sat still, observing for hours with a coffee.

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"It would be near impossible to meditate here. But I can watch this for hours." Motorbikes, vegetables, people bashing meat. A tiger shirt and African-patterned pants. #Mindfulness whothefami.substack.com/p/i-can-watc...

I Can Watch This For Hours

Meditation is very important to me, but it can become rigid when slow travelling.

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"She told me I've got nothing. Really? Who has nothing? I'm sane. You're not. I walk. It's logistics." Losing everything? No. You've kept your sanity. #Resilience

"I'm awake. I'm very fucking awake. And that's scary as fuck. Like one long acid trip that doesn't stop." Easy to ignore, because it's ugly. #Awakening

"I feel trapped here, and that's why I'm leaving anyway. Otherwise the vultures will pick my bones dry." 5:30am. Delirious. Sirens on the street. #SoloTravel whothefami.substack.com/p/the-vultur...

The Vultures of Phnom Penh

I’m tired and delirious.

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"Everyone says to be yourself. But being your true self, that's really, really hard." Meditation can't solve this one. I'm grieving what I walked away from. #Authenticity

"Let go of expectations. Be humble. Be open. Be patient. Something more behind these faded street food signs will reveal itself." The magic of cross-cultural connection. #StreetFood whothefami.substack.com/p/behind-the...

Behind the Faded Street Food Signs

I've really been meaning to watch more of Anthony Bourdain and to read more of his work but from what I understand is I see what this man was trying to communicate on a much deeper level.

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The control, the anxiety, the fear, it isn't mine. I float through life with ease. Just here to make the coffee. #GreyRock

I can turn a room on fire if I want to. But being alone is becoming more and more appealing. I'm fine being me. It's simple. #Solitude whothefami.substack.com/p/im-fine-be...

I'm Fine Being Me

I’m the kind of guy who can turn a room on fire if that’s what I want to do.

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The more you grow, the harder it gets. I'll survive this. I always do. Why give me these gifts of perception? #Resilience

Just being my fully weird self gives permission to others. And that's powerful. I didn't think I did much. But she felt seen. #Authenticity

Maybe, just maybe, I'll feel more comfortable in Bishkek. Or just freezing. Kyrgyzstan soon. whothefami.substack.com/p/wherever-i... #SoloTravel

Wherever I Am, a Russian Makes Me Feel at Home

I’m sitting here writing and listening to Russians speak, absorbing the language.

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No PowerPoints. No Wi-Fi. Just genuine human connection. A bubble of protection. A bubble of peace. #Connection whothefami.substack.com/p/no-powerpo...

No PowerPoints. No Wi-Fi. Just Genuine Human Connection.

Even in the most intense of Southeast Asian countries, among all the mistrust, once you step out of the Tuk Tuk and into a local street-food spot, everything changes.

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The vibe is heavy — but I'm leaning into it as a challenge. No passport. Romanian Minimal Breaks. Heading to the library. #SoloTravel whothefami.substack.com/p/riding-in-...

Riding in a Tuk Tuk Listening to Romanian Breaks

Riding in a Tuk Tuk, listening to Romanian Minimal Breaks.

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I feel like a walking ATM with no passport, unable to sleep at night. I need the passport. I need to leave. #SoloTravel open.substack.com/pub/whothefa...

I Want My Passport Back

I want my passport back.

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I collapsed their egos to teach them a lesson. But maybe I was just enjoying the dopamine. Now it's time to let that go. whothefami.substack.com/p/rattling-p... #ShadowWork

Rattling People Became My Drug of Choice

Wow — it was like a drug.

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I'm actually on the tram to come and introduce myself right now. Going all the way. No other option. #Hustle

I'm not an ATM. And paradoxically, I am writing about this. It just is what it is. #SoloTravel whothefami.substack.com/p/im-not-an-...

I'm Not an ATM

I'm disappointed!

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That's why I go alone, to be present and build bridges around the world. We are the world. #SoloTravel whothefami.substack.com/p/we-are-the...

We Are The World

Solo traveling is total freedom.

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