Alessia Bellisario

@aless.co

O & S’s mom NYC

It's a weird time in software/OSS when a popular project is merging "bug fixes" within 10 minutes of the PR opening with no reviewers, closing linked issues that contained minimal reproductions... and the PR didn't actually fix the bug 🙃

This year I think I’ll give mouth tape a whirl Me, a lifelong mouth breather: “This could be huge for me” My wife: “No, this could be huge for *me*”

National Adoption Awareness Month, which is about promoting #adoption, begins today. none of the promotional material contains an answer to the following naïve question: why does “give this child a loving and safe home” require “erase and rewrite this child’s entire identity”?

Second last day in Mérida, Mexico and highly recommend a visit if you ever have the chance 🇲🇽 The people are warm, mid-Feb isn’t super busy and my toddler has loved exploring the city and nearby beach town, Progreso, by bus.

A kid laying in a red hammock, face obscured, against a bright orange stucco 
wall.A tall play structure for children in Mérida’s Plaza del Asta Bandera with a slide coming down from the third story, and a large Mexican flag waving in the background.A child running on the sand on the beach in Progreso, Mexico.

NEW: Porsha Ngumezi is the fifth case we've reported on in which a woman died after not receiving a D&C or its second-trimester equivalent in time, or at all. Her case raises questions about how abortion bans are pressuring doctors to avoid standard care even in straightforward miscarriages.

A Third Woman Died Under Texas’ Abortion Ban. Doctors Are Avoiding D&Cs and Reaching for Riskier Miscarriage Treatments.

Thirty-five-year-old Porsha Ngumezi’s case raises questions about how abortion bans are pressuring doctors to avoid standard care even in straightforward miscarriages.

propublica.org

The season of parenting my wife and I are in: our 2.5 year old knows the phrase “I have to pee!” but hasn’t yet learned it does nothing as a bedtime delay tactic while he’s wearing a diaper

Just got back from London, a city whose residents I’m sure have a transit wish list, but where the trains arrived every 1-2 minutes during off-peak. It’s a Saturday night at 7pm and the next Brooklyn-bound F trains at 14th street are arriving in 15 and 23 minutes. What a joke.

Off to western NY to spend the weekend with nine of my kid’s siblings! I love seeing other recipient parents (“RPs” as we’re known in the donor conceived community) speak about affirming/investing in relationships with their kids’ bio kin. I’ll be putting that into practice more myself :)