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they/them . disabled genderqueer butch . friend of dogs and plants and books https://ko-fi.com/littlebrownmoth

Also, it deeply fascinates and alarms me how many people I will have a conversation about using generative AI and the environmental concerns regarding it where we SEEM like we're on the same page... then they go, "I do use it for work, but..." and start to justify it.

Reading Empire of AI by Karen Hao, and genuinely I think it would benefit a lot if people to read it to get more perspective on how wild the generative AI situation actually is in their pursuit of AGI. The paranoia, human rights violations, and the sheer scale and impact of data centers are WILD.

mom's pacemaker surgery is tomorrow, first of two heart surgeries planned for this year. fingers crossed that all goes well. she cant do much after the surgery for a while - it has me wishing she had one of those video bird feeders so that she could see them while recovering more easily.

every time something starts to go right, something else goes wrong. this time its car repairs i cant afford but have to just do and figure out how to pay off later. no wonder i get nervous when i start to have success at something. i have to say "ill figure it out" too often.

my recent ex has been vague blogging about me for 7 months where people who know us both follow them and idk at a certain point this starts to feel malicious or obsessive especially when theyre sure spinning it as if theyre a victim and im some villain, and in some cases flat lying

i just think that people who deny having agency in their treatment of others and wont take accountability for their actions are no longer compatible with me or my life

i specifically avoided talking about them to mutual friends/etc and then see them vague about me and talk about plans to do something thats specifically a trigger of mine. they probably dont remember that it is. but that does make me sad

sometimes people get rly invested in speaking authoritatively about things and people they openly admit to not knowing hardly anything about and like... you can, no ones stopping you, but like why? i just unfollow bc its not worth it to try to discuss when they've decided theyre Right TM already

an incomplete list of things that i remember that i am glad exist when i am not this sad: yellow potatoes lava lamps secretary desks dogs chocolate ganache kinks tomatoes marigolds rats soup rice mangos hot tea crocheted stuffies horror movies cuddling queer people pocket knives caribiners love

its wild how you will improve your coping mechanisms and your quality of life and your baseline average happiness tenfold and yet you will still have mental illness and live under capitalism and fascism and sometimes one of multiple of those will hit you like a train. anyway, im sad today.

sometimes i fixate in real hard on a task ive been avoiding forever suddenly and obsessively and then later realize its because my coworkers gave me caffeine and it made the "choose to focus on things" toggle work again for a bit

real sex talk: showing consideration and proactivity to your partner is a pre requisite to everything else you do being hot for a LOT of people. when you do that, you give them more space to turn off their brain and just enjoy things with you.

people who i leave really dont seem to understand that i dont leave people because i no longer love them. i leave because eventually, i can no longer tolerate them hurting me just because i love them. eventually, if you cannot stop yourself from hurting me, i will remove your access to me. thats it.