Louisa Thomas

@louisamthomas.bsky.social

Child, Educational & Community Psychologist IFS Therapist Based in Hampshire, UK She/her 🏳️‍🌈 Psychology, Musings & Inspiration 🦋

One of the biggest cultural burdens is the message that suppression of emotion is a strength. Most people don’t believe this consciously, and yet we still have parts that work to avoid or hide our feelings. The irony in this process is that we accidentally cut ourselves off from pleasure and joy.

“If you learned through being lectured at, you’re going to do that with yourself, your parts, and with clients. But if somebody helped you trust your own Self, you’re going to help your client trust their own Self.” - Richard Schwartz - #IFS

It is really infuriating to see how misogyny really does unite men across the sociopolitical spectrum. And, in so far as the Epstein files go, they sort women into two categories: fuckable or irrelevant. When they near a hint of accountability they complain about not being able to make women prey.

It takes an estimated 400 repetitions to learn something thru traditional classroom methods but only 10-20 times to learn through “dedicated play” (Purvis). We desperately need more capacity and space for play, choice and creativity in our classrooms (and wider world)

Culture often pushes us towards deprivation- over interest curiosity, unless our interests conveniently fit the culture. The more we drop our interest curiosity, and pick up deprivation curiosity, the more we’ll unquestioningly support the social hierarchy and ignore its impacts to our natures…

Litman (2005) identified two types of curiosity; the first, ‘deprivation curiosity’ is a worried need to know, stemming from lack of information about how to feel safe (e.g., how to get enough money to survive), and the second ‘interest curiosity,’ comes from the innate sense of wanting to know.