the thing about family is that you actually don't owe anyone who is shitty or cruel to you anything, even if they share some of the same genetic quirks and mental illnesses as you! I apologize when I fuck up, and even when I don't! I should apologize LESS, frankly!
it's always interesting to be reminded that you are probably the villain or at least the petulant spoiled fuck-up in someone else's narrative.