my laxness in my gender expression obviously plays a hand in this but theres nothing more demoralizing then watching someone go through the motions of "this is a cool Man i am speaking to" to "you are not a person" in real time
what cis people fail to understand about transphobia is that it's not "treating trans men as women and trans women as men," it's "constantly occupying the status of Third-Sexed Unhuman who can be gendered in whichever way is most convenient at any given moment"