Goodbye Bluesky. I deactivated 4 months ago after a traumatic experience, having my boundaries and consent repeatedly violated by a former close friend. (Let’s call her Jane to protect her identity). I've realized that I'm unable to find closure.

This experience has left me traumatized and disillusioned and made me feel very unsafe and alienated. This is the first and only time I'll talk about this. While I have proof for everything I will mention in these threads, I’m not including the 120+ screenshots here to protect people’s identities.

For months, Jane has been pursuing a sexual and romantic relationship with me, pushed to be friends with benefits with me, and looked to be in a polycule with me and RAYN4. Jane did all this while knowing that I didn’t feel the same way and that I was already spoken for in a closed relationship.

Assigning meaning to a bodily response is a very dangerous thing to do, which made Jane’s constant boundary violations even more uncomfortable. RAYN4 said it did push buttons but nothing more, and explained how she felt familial love for Jane, as a friend and seeing her as a big sister.

This brings me to Mary (name changed to protect her identity). I was in her discord server that I left because Jane was also there. Mary reached out to me but it took me a few days to respond when she reached out the second time, because I struggled to talk about what happened.

Back to July 1st, to the moment where we caught Jane lying about her jealousy, wanting a polycule, etc. Right after Jane left the chat groups she was in with us, she immediately started to air dirty laundry in public while context collapsing the situation to villainize us.

As mentioned earlier, I went to sleep when the group conversation winded down, right before Jane messaged RAYN4 privately. I woke up only managing to sleep two hours due to relationship troubles. I checked my phone, seeing Jane had messaged me saying she’s okay, I replied saying I’m worried for her.

Immediately after, despite RAYN4 having clearly stated she doesn’t feel romantically towards Jane, Jane went into RAYN4’s DMs in order to further violate her boundaries. Jane resorted to emotional blackmail by threatening self-harm, egocide and cutting out pieces of her soul.

On April 21, I was dealing with relationship issues between me and my then partner (now ex) of almost six years. I got permission from my partner to share the full conversation with Jane and RAYN4, because my partner thought my friends could help to try and salvage our relationship.

In April 2024, RAYN4 and I unexpectedly fell in love, but decided not to pursue each other, respecting our boundaries as we were both in our separate closed relationships. The news of me confessing my feelings to RAYN4 on April 14 sent Jane into a jealousy fueled, dysphoric spiral.

When I woke up the next morning, I realized that Jane’s boundary pushing and jealousy had left me feeling upset way more than I realized, so I muted the chat to distance myself for a while. Jane responded 5 hours later with an “okay, sorry” and that she would “look inward and work on her shit”.

To start with some clear context: the first time Jane confessed her feelings for me, which I did not reciprocate, was around mid 2023. In April 2024, RAYN4 and I fell in love with each other, but considering we were both in separate, closed relationships at the time, we decided not to pursue.

Goodbye Bluesky. I deactivated 4 months ago after a traumatic experience, having my boundaries and consent repeatedly violated by a former close friend. (Let’s call her Jane to protect her identity). I've realized that I'm unable to find closure.

Same for me. I was already less active because I'm still processing my breakup, dealing with burnout and now this.

Lenneth, crimson grim angel [She/Xey/It]@manibrandrstudios.bsky.social · 2y ago

RAYN4: I am gonna be taking a break from social media, period. This is too much to handle. I can't deal with the realization of how someone so close to me had been violating mine and Poes' boundaries so intensely and so persistently.

Any help at all we can get with this would be greatly appreciated. We're about to turn a financial corner and be much more stable, but in the meanwhile, we need just a little more air under our wings to make it.

Please share this around if you can❤️

People not only have the right to exist in peace and safety, but also THRIVE. I have no more patience to argue with bigots & bullies. We do not exist for them to bully & bait. We are not their entertainment. They are not entitled to our time & energy. Our lives & existences aren’t up for debate.

*Rambles on nonstop about special interests* *Rambles on nonstop about RAYN4* Random Poeskitty thought: is RAYN4 my special interest?

I went to the zoo with my mom, a few things: My mom heard me meow, and she responded by saying "if I found a small kitty I couldn't resist to take it home". And she straight up said to me: Imagine having the life of a cat. Me: >.> ...yeah *shows my fursona art* "I have this art for a reason".

1. Everyone should have access to healthcare, even if they’re shitty people. Period. 2. If someone’s asking the same bigoted question(s) over and over again when they already got an answer, report them and block. Don’t let them run you in circles, wasting your time & energy. Especially after 5 mo.

Hey! Guess what? Trans people deserve gender affirming care EVEN IF they are fucking assholes. You acting like they should be barred from this ONLY serves to harm even the trans people you do like. Not just the ones you don't.

Gosh I love RAYN4 so much🥰

“To those with compassionate hearts, we are a small family looking for a glimmer of hope in these harsh circumstances. Every day that passes we are missing the most basic necessities of life. Help us so that we can provide food and drink and leave this place safely.” gofund.me/2a75ddda

Thank you, everyone. We have received more than enough.

@manibrandrstudios.bsky.social pspspsps kitty

Mutual aid, please share around and help if you can!

Juterna "JetPhox" Grimaude@jetphox.bsky.social · 2y ago

We are a little low on money and bills are coming up on the 3rd. We are also still dealing with a $2000 vet bill (though fortunately we don't have to pay all at once). New income is coming into the house but it won't arrive until after a bill of about $175 first... paypal.me/limit4 cash.app/$lmt4

This has been the worst month of the worst financial year of my life, quite frankly. To that end I am asking for about 200 for the Grimaude household to help us make ends meet, but any amount would be helpful. Thanks again...

We are a little low on money and bills are coming up on the 3rd. We are also still dealing with a $2000 vet bill (though fortunately we don't have to pay all at once). New income is coming into the house but it won't arrive until after a bill of about $175 first... paypal.me/limit4 cash.app/$lmt4

Pay Leroy Thompson using PayPal.Me

Go to paypal.me/limit4 and type in the amount. Since it’s PayPal, it's easy and secure. Don’t have a PayPal account? No worries.

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i’m losing my job very soon and i’m genuinely not sure what i’m going to do. anything helps. 💕💸🖤🧡 ca $RowanOak9 pp rowanoak5 v @Anarcha-Dyke bsky.app/profile/sine...

Briar Darby Sinéad Madarch (fae/it/he)@sineadthefae.bsky.social · 2y ago

it’s still sex worker saturday and i just found out my job is shutting down no later than mid-august and i will be out of a job then, so if anyone has been wanting to order any customs or send any tips or anything, this is your sign 🧡🖤