I feel like at least some of this self corrects when you stop giving yourself mental medals like "ally" and just act normal with other people who are in fact for the most part, also just normal people
A PSA to my fellow cis people who are (or want to believe they are) trans allies If you are getting pushback from trans people and your reaction is to be all “no! not me! I’m one of the good ones!” please remember that “being one of the good ones” is something you DO, not something you ARE