Fun fact! “Vampire bats establish friendships by sharing regurgitated blood with their neighbours in a "kind of horrifying French kiss", a new study says.”

Vampire bats 'French kiss with blood' to form lasting bonds

Researchers observing the mammals saw them sharing regurgitated blood with their neighbours.

bbc.com

I’m a few hours into the audiobook of @tkingfisher.com’s Astarion. Delighted that even this topic allowed for some gross science. Grinning from ear to ear at the description of saponification.

Coming up this Thursday!!! Learn to bring your fantasies to life. www.sheboptheshop.com/booktok-to-b...

The Kink Bundle is back for 2026!!! The only bundle I’ve participated in, because it’s such a great group of educators and content. Get ready for Kinktober with education on every kink topic you’re curious about - plus Kink 101 from yours truly! stellaharris--domsubliving.thrivecart.com/kink-bundle/

Saw Camp Miasma last night. Absolutely loved it. And although I already have several kaftans in my wardrobe, it made me want to further lean into the unhinged cougar/recluse starlet vibe. What’s some good inspo?

“If ever there was a woman you’d want to join your book group or spend an evening chatting with at a wine bar, Stella Harris is that person. With shoulder-length gray hair and fashionable glasses, she exudes a sophisticated professorial air that’s backed up by credentials...”

At 62, I Signed Up For A Class On ‘How to Give Mind-Blowing Blow Jobs.’ I Never Expected What Happened Next.

"My husband complained that I never initiated sex — that I never seemed to want it. He was right."

huffpost.com

I’m working on a new class (or, heavily updating an old class) and trying to come up with a new title. Do you think the general public would understand a reference to “BookTok”? Well, ‘general public’ meaning people who’d see marketing for a fantasy exploration/sex ed class.

I had an absolute blast chatting with @hitherecatsuit.bsky.social for the @authenticallykinky.bsky.social podcast!! Be sure to listen when it goes live in October!

I’ve been playing Balder’s Gate 3 for a couple of weeks now. Getting used to a gaming console again has been awkward. Learning DnD mechanics has been tricky. But the hardest part of the game? Monogamy. I am not built for this.

Unfortunately, it’s time to retire my trusty Fleshlight that I’ve used as a teaching model for at least a decade. I can’t decide if I want to go with something else realistic, like a medical model, or go the cute route, with something like a vulva puppet. Thoughts?

I got a call during this time frame. They were looking for someone else, but were happy to talk to me. (I’m such a nerd for these calls.) The questions were phrased very strangely, with no adequate responses for my opinions. When asked, the caller said he didn’t know who they were working for.

Robert Evans (the Only Robert Evans)@iwriteok.bsky.social · 3mo ago

The title of this OregonLive article is, "New Oregon governor poll shows Tina Kotek and Christine Drazan race is far from settled". Wow! Shocking! Must be a pretty reputable poll to make the news, right? Well... oregonlive.com share.google/maFgLvQFR4L6...

Went to a munch for the first time in ages last night. The fear of being forgotten is only matched by the fear of what completely wild, unhinged thing people will loudly exclaim they remember me from.

Join me online, July 9th, to learn all about squirting! www.sheboptheshop.com/wet-wild-g-s...

I’ve decided the ghost in my house must be a cat. Because their main activity is knocking things over in the middle of the night, scaring me awake. Are cat ghosts a thing?

Apparently the internet is once again debating who is a “real reader.” Have you sat down to read a book in the middle of a sex club? Have you read a book during a threesome you were meant to participate in? I’d like to see the smut & audiobook haters show this level of commitment to reading.

I am grateful to have had @stellaharris.bsky.social as my companion on this journey. At several junctures she exclaimed, “They keep saying words!” The words were incomprehensible, spoken with immense conviction.

JK@miniver.bsky.social · 4mo ago

I have now seen Tobe Hooper’s ‘The Mangler’ (1995), inspired by the early Stephen King short story of the same title. Is it a good film? Is it a bad film? To even ask such a feeble question is an insult to this work. It is worse than you imagine and better than you can imagine.

Is anybody else still using Pandora? I’ve given Spotify and Apple Music a chance, but they just don’t *get* me like Pandora does.

Happy Pride from an elder queer bracing for this year’s exhausting bisexual discourse. #yesbisexualsbelongatpride #yesevenwithstraightpartners #yesyouarequeerenough

living in a 24/7 d/s (damsel/snidely) relationship with a girl who keeps a pair of airpods in so she can listen to oncoming train asmr to stay in "trackspace"

Princess Pretty Girl@princessprettygirl.bsky.social · 4mo ago

the wikipedia image for sexual roleplay is making my lose my mind

“You’re throwing a party in poop’s house.” Always love Luna’s classes! A quotable gem every minute. @lunamatatas.bsky.social

The skill which is powerful in almost every domain

John Scalzi@scalzi.com · 5mo ago

I really wish people aspiring to write understood what a competitive advantage being able to write without AI will be in the coming years.

Was reminiscing with a friend about record stores. I guess kids these days don’t know the anxiety of bringing their album choices up to the impossibly cool clerk for judgment at checkout.

“Fandom by nature is histrionic; the intensity of a fan’s love is directed both inwards and outwards. Moreover… the quilt of community is knitted with emotional outbursts, where hierarchies are assembled based on who demonstrably cares the most.” open.substack.com/pub/capybaro...

We Actually Do Have To Talk About The Pitt Fandom

Every fandom is The Pitt fandom

open.substack.com

“Where the traditional Gothic is dark and looming… Institutional Gothic occurs in winding or otherwise empty office spaces, consumed by machine-made mundanity & the unforgiving gaze of noisy overhead fluorescent lighting. The antagonists, once bloodthirsty lords, are instead soulless corporations.”

‘Backrooms’ and the Rise of the Institutional Gothic

A new spin on an old genre replaces flesh-and-blood monsters with the mundanity of modern bureaucracy.

thereader.mitpress.mit.edu

It’s movie night with my favorite scaredy cat! Looking for inspo on Letterboxed and multiple lists of “beginner” horror suggest The Shining. A reminder that horror weirdos (like me) have no understanding of what scares normal people.

It’s weird watching people talk about the 6th anniversary of the pandemic like it’s over.

Had a hysterectomy in December. Just texted a friend, outraged, upon discovering I can still have cramps and PMS without a uterus. Followed by this lovely exchange:

Apparently, having had a hysterectomy is not a good enough reason for Walgreens to stop calling me every month to ask if I’m pregnant before filling my prescriptions.

I was supposed to give a talk later this week, but the person hiring me just backed out. They said that upon further reflection, they can't afford me - it's just not in the budget for their event. The conversation could (should) have ended there.

As a sex & kink educator, I don't always feel I have the expertise to meet the current moment. But apparently the safety risks of hog tying people have become relevant outside the dungeon/bedroom, so here we go: Bondage comes with hidden risks, including nerve damage and positional asphyxiation.