The moments when you’re finally treated like a human are bliss - and also a reminder of all the other moments where your humanity is denied.
The Autistic Coach | Mati (he/they)
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I build neuroaffirming communities by empowering my fellow autistic humans with advocacy & self-care tools for navigating a productivist society AuDHD ♾️ 🌀 דזשענדער־טרייף #POTS #Dyspraxia ♿️ EN/FR theautisticcoach.com Also @autisticrabbi.bsky.social
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Reconciliation can’t come before repair. You can’t skip to healing while nothing’s actually changed. That’s the whole problem with Autism Awareness. Allistic folx want the warm feeling of inclusion without doing the repair first.
Most rooms ask you to lead with one identity and leave the rest at the door. This one doesn't. Free monthly circle for autistic trans, nonbinary, and autigender adults - no translating, no picking a lane. www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-discu...
if you're autistic and have no idea how to use the bathroom - you're not alone
Autistic peer support coaching from someone who isn’t trying to change you, but give you the tools and perspective to lean into yourself.
We don't learn who we are from media - we learn it from each other Autistic folx spend decades as the only one in the room - then wonder why no amount of reading has made them feel understood You can't self-help your way out of isolation Understanding yourself is, weirdly, a group activity
On te dit que t'es « autiste de haut niveau » parce que tu passes pour normal·e. Sauf que passer pour normal·e, c'est pas une compétence. C'est un coût. Plus tu masques bien, moins on voit ce que ça te prend. Et moins on t'aide. Bien masquer, c'est pas aller bien. C'est souvent l'inverse.
What helps my autistic comrades get started in the morning?
The moments when you’re finally treated like a human are bliss - and also a reminder of all the other moments where your humanity is denied.
You’d think CURRENTLY non-disabled people would be more accommodating of disabled people considering that, most likely, one day they’ll end up being disabled too. But, no.
You're not bad at relationships. You've just been measured against a script that was never written for you. Join me for a 2-hour virtual seminar on autistic relationships: love languages, boundaries, unmasking with the people closest to you - plus Q&A. www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-educa...
Autistic humans don’t have an executive function problem. We have a safety problem that gets called an executive function problem. Watch what happens when an autistic person feels genuinely safe and genuinely interested.
Shuls should be places where people feel love - not terror. Hot take, apparently.
Nothing quite like being a self-aware and confident autistic sitting in a meeting with folx who still simp to be neuronormativity
A meltdown isn't a tantrum. It's the alarm, not the crash - your nervous system saying your needs went unmet. Learn more at my online seminar on autistic meltdowns, shutdowns & burnout. www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-educa...
The best way to support your autistic child is to model your own comfort with being autistic
#Autistics often have parts that uses strategies of masking or pleasing to try to cope with reality. This essay describes the IFS - informed process of helping parts, and the wisdom that emerges once they're given care they never got. www.patriceriley.com/blog/turning...
Turning to the One Who Had No One: An IFS - informed approach to help systems that mask and please — Autistic IFS Practitioner for Women | Patrice Riley | Autistic Peer Support Coach for Women | Coach...
Many who are autistic, or who grew up in the Irish diaspora, have parts that have used strategies of masking or pleasing to try to cope with the more difficult aspects of our realities. They started w...
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we need more autistic positive nutritionists
Reconciliation can’t come before repair. You can’t skip to healing while nothing’s actually changed. That’s the whole problem with Autism Awareness. Allistic folx want the warm feeling of inclusion without doing the repair first.
Understanding that you’re autistic later in life comes with unique opportunities and challenges. My group offers tools and actual community for the next steps. www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...
You’d think CURRENTLY non-disabled people would be more accommodating of disabled people considering that, most likely, one day they’ll end up being disabled too. But, no.
Autistic peer support coaching from someone who isn’t trying to change you, but give you the tools and perspective to lean into yourself.
A meltdown isn't a tantrum. It's the alarm, not the crash - your nervous system saying your needs went unmet. Learn more at my online seminar on autistic meltdowns, shutdowns & burnout. www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-educa...
Do my autistic comrades like to swim?
Understanding that you’re autistic later in life comes with unique opportunities and challenges. My group offers tools and actual community for the next steps. www.theautisticcoach.com/late-diagnos...