Big Dumb Bear

@bigdumbbear.bsky.social

6'3"/190 cm, 240 lbs/110 kg bear in Palm Springs, California. Married, demi, submissive. Partial to cigar men and leather bears. Dad to a couple of amazing boys. BigDumbBear on Hank Social, Recon, and Scruff; cpuready on Instagram. BLUF #5146.

In the middle of all this porn and such, I’d like to just stop for a minute and thank @woofymcgrrr.bsky.social for being the best friend and partner this Bear could hope for. Thirty-two years and counting and I couldn’t be happier - he’s an incredible man. Now, everyone get back to sexy times. 😈

I'm not personally a fan of #fcf for a couple of reasons - I rarely see a dick pic that's in and of itself compelling (hey, I wanna see the man it's attached to!). Also? My own dick doesn't look great in pictures (circumcision scars, plus a short fat dick looks really small on a 6 foot 3 fella).

Gay bars would be a whole lot more awesome if there was a single, dedicated bar station that sold absolutely nothing but one single cup of ordinary draft beer with a tap-to-pay panel that charged $5 including tip: tap your card, grab your beer, and go

Stood next to a fella wearing an American fireman’s uniform at a costume party tonight; I was wearing a French one. The contrast was insane - he looked ready to put out a fire; I looked like I miiight be able to deal with a crème brûlée incident if wasn’t on a smoke break or at the beach in August

Pro tip: if you’re headed to the Cathedral City Eagle, they don’t take cash! Didn’t have a card on me last night; thankfully, Apple Pay worked just fine. Pretty sure that’s the first time I didn’t pay cash at a bar in California.

Some notes on these pictures: 1. On the left: the first explicit picture was shared without my consent; I was on a work trip to Seattle in May, 2015 and found myself chatting with an Englishman on GROWLr (as one does). Some time later, a friend in San Diego sent me this and asked: is that you?

Caught up with a high school classmate today... "One memory stands out, sitting with you and others at a round table in the cafeteria by the windows facing the library and you were talking about forearm tattoos to signal how far up someone’s ass they have been…." I'm impressed by 16-year-old me.

I generally read as unapproachable, I know. I tend towards being quiet and respectful towards others, especially fellas I really want to get naked with. (I blame the Antioch College Sexual Offense Prevention Policy - I was a student there in 1990.) I wish I knew how to fix that, but there you go.