Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast
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Real Talk About Love, Sex, & Poor Decisions https://linktr.ee/doaswesaypod
Look, everybody wants love. We all want connection. That’s not the issue. The issue comes when our feelings take precedence over respecting other people and viewing them as human beings. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/Wn-hl... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com @lavitaloca34.bsky.social
Humans Want Connection
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Trying to get a $1 relationship while only investing 15 cents isn’t the best way to approach a relationship. (And it won’t save you from pain or conflict either.) 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/bt8Tf... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com @lavitaloca34.bsky.social
15 Cents for a Dollar Experience
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If you’re caught up in wanting and waiting for someone to change their mind or hoping that the “maybe” you got really meant “yes,” this one’s for you. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/KeFMe... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com @lavitaloca34.bsky.social
Ambiguity Is a No
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This week we are joined by Evita Sawyers. The stories are messy, but the lesson is simple: healthy relationships aren’t built on wishful thinking, avoiding conflict, or waiting for someone to change. 🎧 youtu.be/pFrat5xjf_I . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com @lavitaloca34.bsky.social
DON'T GO THROUGH YOUR PARTNER’S PHONE! Trust isn’t built on surveillance. If you have to keep checking your partner’s phone to “trust” them, you might wanna listen to this episode. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/MKTUi... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
Trust Isn't Built Through Surveillance
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The internet is great because you can find your people. But it also kind of sucks because those people might live thousands of miles away. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/evQgV... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
We've Lost Third Spaces
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Have you ever gone looking for evidence that your worst fear was true, all so you could feel even worse than before? 😬 Sometimes we’re so desperate for certainty that we’ll end up being our own worst enemy. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/4rNeh... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
Setting Ourselves Up For Hurt
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Why is it easier to go on a romantic date than schedule and follow through with that friendship date? 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/NhMmq... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
Building Intentional Relationships
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The thing that's the most perversely fascinating about Mystery and his AI "girlfriend" is how this honestly is the ne plus ultra of what PUA ultimately is selling to you: a girlfriend who will never say no and will always be exactly what you want her to be. Just not, y'know. A *person*.
Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast@doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 2w agoRemember Mystery? The pickup artist from the early 2000s who taught awkward men how to attract women? Well, he’s back in the headlines. 👀 This time, it’s because he wrote a book with (and about) his AI girlfriend. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/yKLmj... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
Can you imagine how exhausting it would be to meet every single one of your partner’s needs? When would you even have time to meet your own? 😬 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/FJ9KO... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
You Don’t Have to Meet Someone’s Every Need
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This week on we are joined by Jessica Daylover with Remodeled Love. First, we unpack a story from a woman who hurt her own feelings by going through her husband’s phone. Then we have a yap sesh about a polyamorous jealousy. 🎧 youtu.be/XjR5mC1sY-E . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
Remember Mystery? The pickup artist from the early 2000s who taught awkward men how to attract women? Well, he’s back in the headlines. 👀 This time, it’s because he wrote a book with (and about) his AI girlfriend. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/yKLmj... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
Mystery and His AI Girlfriend
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Sometimes control looks like victimhood and comes from someone who feels so out of control that they create impossible rules and constantly shifting goalposts to avoid getting hurt. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/0D-9_... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
Control Can Come from Victimhood
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Friends don’t let friends date AI chatbots. They sit you down and ask if you’re okay…or they lovingly roast you first and ask questions second. 🙌 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/Ks7fl... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
Friends Don't Let Friends Have AI Girlfriends
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A good relationship has friction occasionally. That doesn’t mean you’re walking on eggshells 24/7, constantly trying to avoid upsetting your partner, or somehow upsetting them without ever understanding what you did. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/t3KdI... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
You Shouldn't Have to Walk on Eggshells
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This week we're are joined by Kevin Patterson to unpack one of the messiest relationship posts we’ve ever seen…and then react to the news that pickup artist Mystery has an AI girlfriend. 🎧 www.youtube.com/watch?v=E6d2... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
Sure, AI can write your dating profile, but then who’s going on the date… You or the robot? 🤖 The goal of your profile shouldn’t be to appear like a perfectly optimized human, because that person doesn’t exist. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/35wMT... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
No One Wants Your AI Dating Profile
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Sadly, the 666 rule is neither about Satan nor an amazing needle-drop in The Bone Temple, but one of the most absurd dating "rules" guys invented out of whole cloth.
Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast@doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 3w agoNot only does the 666 rule exclude all the men who don’t meet those requirements who are happily in relationships, but it also completely misunderstands what most women are actually looking for. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/UcMGZ... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
Swipe, swipe, swipe. You can end up with 3 matches or 300, but guess what? Matches alone don’t mean anything. A match is an introduction. You still have to start the conversation, build a connection, and eventually meet. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/JHgFU... . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
Matches Don’t Mean Anything
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Being a whole person who wants to genuinely connect with someone else and prioritizes their comfort and boundaries will get you a lot further than any manosphere “dating hack” ever could. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/fan6g... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
Desire Doesn’t Exist Without Safety
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Not only does the 666 rule exclude all the men who don’t meet those requirements who are happily in relationships, but it also completely misunderstands what most women are actually looking for. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/UcMGZ... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
666 Doesn't Actually Mean Anything
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One of the ongoing themes that @drlizpowell.bsky.social and I keep covering is how often men will refuse to listen to advice from women and will ONLY listen to what other men have to say. Even when every woman in their lives are telling them the exact opposite…
Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast@doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 3w agoOn the latest episode, we visit Reddit to talk about one of the biggest problems with modern dating advice: too many men are taking advice about women from other men. And it’s just not good. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/4X2sf... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
This was a fun episode! Don't forget that you can watch the whole conversation on Youtube, Spotify or listen to it anywhere you get your favorite podcasts!
Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast@doaswesaypod.bsky.social · 4w agoWouldn’t it be nice if relationships came with an instruction manual? Step 1: Say the Correct Thing™️. Step 2: Never have a misunderstanding. Step 3: Live happily ever after. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/vcf5d... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
On the latest episode, we visit Reddit to talk about one of the biggest problems with modern dating advice: too many men are taking advice about women from other men. And it’s just not good. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/4X2sf... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
“A Relationship” or a “Wife Appliance”
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One pill, two pill, red pill, blue pill… purple pill??? Last time we checked, Morpheus only offered Neo a red pill and a blue pill, so where does r/PurplePillDebate even come from? 🎧 youtu.be/GrzHFRgmtnk . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
Wouldn’t it be nice if relationships came with an instruction manual? Step 1: Say the Correct Thing™️. Step 2: Never have a misunderstanding. Step 3: Live happily ever after. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/vcf5d... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
There’s Never a Formula for Relationships
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Sometimes a relationship has simply run its course, or you need to have a tough conversation, and instead of just getting it over with, you draw it out or try to avoid it entirely. That usually results in more pain. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/2pTCB... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
It's Okay to Hurt
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The truth is that you can’t connection without friction. You’re going to have disagreements or misunderstandings. Things can get awkward. It’s all just part of being a human in a relationship with another human. 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/hlKSb... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
Friction Is the Price of Connection
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This is what I call the "Sir Mix-A-Lot" problem: everything is amazing... now here comes a big ol' BUT.
Do As We Say, Not As They Did Podcast@doaswesaypod.bsky.social · last mo.You ever hear people or read those Reddit stories where the OP is going on and on about how amazing their husband is, but everything they say actually just sounds like a red flag? 🚩 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/8w_z1... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
You ever hear people or read those Reddit stories where the OP is going on and on about how amazing their husband is, but everything they say actually just sounds like a red flag? 🚩 🎧 youtube.com/shorts/8w_z1... . . . @drlizpowell.bsky.social @doctornerdlove.com
“My Husband Is Amazing”… Until the ‘But’
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