When I teach my students that systems of oppression hurt us all, this is what I'm talking about. Being steeped in this racist, misogynist, colonial, neoliberal sludge for most of our lives makes us this way. It's bad! We have to actively think otherwise (think DFW's 'This Is Water' speech).
I think there's a case to be made that we should care whether people in power are, in fact, total jerks. In today's video, I muse about exactly that: why isn't empathy treated as a prerequisite to shape public opinion or policy? I'd love to hear your thoughts!