l m rainer
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When you come to the edge of all that you know, you must believe in one of two things, there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings to fly (O.R. Melling) read fairy tales (Albert Einstein) 🎨 🪴 📚 🦩🏝️ 🐠 🌺
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How (not) to be a Manager
A friend once described a person as “more acquainted with Mr. Machiavelli than I would feel comfortable with.” A just saying, but if you are so clearly in the camp of Machiavelli, well, then you ar…
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Feelings before Coffee are Not Real Feelings (or What to Do on Bleak Days)
Those days when you feel something important is missing, then you take that first sip of coffee and, oh, yes, there it is – your will to live. Darling we all have those days, sometimes severa…
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How Etiquette Central Can Illuminate Your Life
Darling, we are Etiquette Central because we do everything, absolutely everything – travel, books, manners, skin-care, art appreciation, food… it’s all here! How to fight your boss, decorate …
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In the Wonder-Working Days of Old, Our Clothes Used to Match
Yes, Darling, when hearts were twice as good as gold and twenty times as mellow we would leave the house with a purse that had the same, or a similar, color as our clothes. Yes, some of us did. Eve…
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The Wisdom of Agatha Christie
It is a truth universally acknowledged that no one pays enough attention to Agatha Christie. I mean, yes Darling, her books are read over and over, but that is not quite the same thing as paying at…
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Reminders: Gracious Hosting and Gracious Guesting
A friend who is hosting a relative they have not seen in over 25 years told me that they planned to have “a big salad” for dinner. No, I said. No. And no. And also no. And never. And stop that nons…
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Gstaad Guy, Cyrus Veyssi and the Importance of Supporting les Meneurs d’Etiquette
A friend asked me my opinion of “Gstaad Guy,” an influencer who does mock etiquette videos. Tout simplement je l’adore. But, of course, all true etiquette mavens adore all other t…
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Liars – East and West
One of the most dangerous aspects of living in the Middle East is that you start to think that USA is organized and honest. When I went to see an apartment in Boston this spring, the property manag…
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Everyone coming on my feed and explaining to me that all is lost, I note what I have noted before, that there are no Negro Spirituals entitled, “Welp, I Guess It All Sucks and I Am Giving Up.”
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Boston, part 3 – Puritans, Parking Spaces and the Pope
Darling we were speaking of Boston so I shall give you another example – what is Boston famous for in winter? Someone shoveling out their parking space and then ‘protecting’ it with a lawn chair or…
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If Andy Beshear doesn’t call for a special election before August 3rd and force Mitch McConnell to prove he can speak in a video, then Andy Beshear becomes the new Merrick Garland. I’m sorry but I make the rules.
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Giving the Presents that People Want (or can easily get rid of)
Darling, you may not get creative with gifts for those on a limited income. Give what is most helpful, be is gift certificates to grocery stores or taking over paying their electricity bill. If the…
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The Land of No Bad Decisions
I recently read an essay about how taking care of elderly parents means facing up to the fact that there are no good decisions – having them stay in a house they can’t take care of is not a g…
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The Unified Field Theory of Boston vs. Midwest
A friend just moved to Boston because she got a job with a large, famous company. She had interviewed with and been hired by the co-leaders of a sub-unit, but the policy of this company is that new…
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Goldfish with Tech: Navigating American Offices
Result 1 – a lot of goldfish brain (3-second memory). People are constantly rechecking because there is nothing written. They look at their screen calendar, flip to another screen, don’…
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Ashtaran Souq – The Tale of Yusef the Thief and Mubarak the Cook
Darling, politics are horrible at the moment. Stick to fairy tale and here is one of my favorites: Mubarak was a cook who loved to cook, but he was not careful. He mixed up the spoons, didn’t clean…
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