A great friend of mine once explained to how I was giving rather than sharing when we worked together. I was objectifying them and not listening. Were we a tandem comedy act or was I a ventriloquist? i had trouble realizing I was being selfish rather than generous.
Friendships are a commitment too. A lot of people treat friendships like void fillers and even second fiddle for romantic relationships and wonder why they’re lacking in community. You don’t wanna sacrifice for folks. you don’t wanna do anything outside of for you…how is that community minded?