IME, loving others and loving yourself go hand in hand, and it’s very hard to have one without the other. Part of why they reject empathy is because they hate themselves. So much of evangelicalism is performative perfection, hiding and denying how broken you are inside.
"A survey released Tuesday (Oct. 20) found that Republicans and evangelicals increasingly see empathy as a danger that can lead society away from God." religionnews.com/2026/10/20/a...