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Husband, Father, Texan, Marine, SPED Teach Married to @sundene #Paperclip Ph.D. in Profanity from USMC-Semper Fidelis

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Medusa’s Wink@medusaswink.bsky.social · last yr.

CW: domestic and relationship abuse In terms of interpersonal relationships, these “Wheel” charts contrast relationships defined by power and control v. those defined by equality Each “pie” piece in one chart has a corresponding piece in the other. Please see comment below 👇

The “Power and Control Wheel” of relationship violence - emotional, physical, sexual, and economic 1) Using Intimidation: Making you afraid by using looks, gestures, actions Smashing things Abusing pets Displaying weapons Using looks, actions, gestures to reinforce control Standing in front of the door or exit 2) Using Emotional Abuse: Putting you down Making you feel bad about yourself Calling you names Playing mind games Making you feel guilty Humiliating you Questioning your identity Reinforcing internalized phobias and isms 3) Using Isolation: Controlling what you do, who you see or talk to Limiting your outside activities Making you account for your whereabouts Saying no one will believe you Not letting you go anywhere alone 4) Denying, Minimizing, Blaming: Making light of abuse Sayin it didn't happen Shifting responsibility Saying it's your fault, you deserved it Accusing you of "mutual abuse" Saying it's just fighting, not abuse Accusing you of "making" them abuse 5) Using Children: Making you fell guilty about the children Using children to relay messages Threatening to take the children Telling you that you have no parental rights & threatening to tell your ex or the authorities to take your children 6) Using Privilege: Treating you like a servant Making all the "big" decisions Being the one to define the roles or duties in the relationship Using privilege or ability discredit you, cut off access to resources or use the system against you Knowing “what's best" for you 7) Using Economic Abuse: Preventing you from getting or keeping a job Making you ask for money Inerfering with work or education Taking your credit cards without permission Not working and requiring you to provide support Keeping your name off joint assets 8) Using Coercion & Threats: Making and/or carrying out threats to do something to harm you Threatening to leave or commit suicide Driving recklessly to frighten you Threatening others who are important to you StalkingThe corresponding Equality Wheel of Relationship Nonviolence (*note: references to “her” have been changed to “their”) 1) Non-threatening Behavior: Talking and acting so that others feel safe and comfortable expressing themselves and doing things 2) Respect: Listening to them non-judgmentally Being emotionally affirming and understanding Valuing their opinions 3) Trust and Support: Supporting their goals in life Respecting their right to their own feelings, friends, activities, and opinions 4) Honesty and Accountability: Accepting responsibility for self Acknowledging past use of violence Admitting being wrong Communicating openly and truthfully 5) Responsible Parenting: Sharing parental responsibilities Being a positive, nonviolent role model for the children 6) Shared Responsibility: Mutually agreeing on a fair distribution of work Making family decisions together 7) Economic Partnership: Making money decisions together Making sure both partners benefit from financial arrangements 8) Negotiation and Fairness: Seeking mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict Accepting changes Being willing to compromise
MJ@texson6886.bsky.social · 2d ago

For those keeping score at home. Republicans bleat we can't afford universal health care so they cut ours while they enjoy it (on the down low) for months or years... So Republicans do love socialism but only for themselves and the 1% that owns them...

MrC Careens Haphazardly Through Time & Space@oldmisterc.bsky.social · 2d ago

ANOTHER motherf****n' repugnac*nt suckin' up a government salary for MONTHS while in a NURSING HOME FOR DEMENTIA PATIENTS!!! londondaily.com/texas-congre...

MJ@texson6886.bsky.social · 2d ago

Ah yes, the abusers definition of abuse, 'Well it's not so bad and besides it's her word against his so...' Ladies, I understand your choice of the bear more and more. I apologize for any time that I was part of the problem and not the solution.

Mrs. Betty Bowers@mrsbettybowers.bsky.social · 2d ago

Maybe the reason Donald doesn’t think what Max Miller is accused of doing to his ex-wife is a big deal is because of what Donald did to *his* ex-wife. In a sworn deposition, Ivana Trump said Donald, angry over a painful anti-balding procedure, yanked tufts of hair off her head and then raped her.

MJ@texson6886.bsky.social · 2d ago

Maybe we turn off corporate infotainment that knows the little boi is crying wolf but hey, they have to fill a 24 hour news cycle with something and reporting real news is totally out! Harmful to the profit margin and corporate reputation...

Ron Filipkowski@ronfilipkowski.bsky.social · 2d ago

What a surprise. The “peace deal negotiations” Trump talked about yesterday and Republicans saying on Fox that something is “very close” was just more blather and drivel.

MJ@texson6886.bsky.social · 4d ago

KKKristians are done with that pesky constitution... Wait till they figure out Jesus is a Jew that ain't lily white and doesn't hate folks like they do...

The Tennessee Holler @thetnholler.bsky.social · 4d ago

“You’ve said ‘we have a Muslim problem’ in Tennessee and you want to ban mosques… how is that constitutional?” FRITTS: “As a Christian how can I have any other perspective?”🤔 Ben Hall asks far right extremist Republican candidate for Governor Monty Fritts (a state rep) about his bigoted ideas.