Agatha Cakalogika 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

@acakalogika.bsky.social

DV Survivor. Prone to missing nuance, and saying the wrong thing. This is where I come to talk nonsense about things that make me happy to restock my spoons. You post AI slop = you get blocked. Trans Rights are Human Rights.

TW BLOOD / SELF HARM Saw the video of Perez Hilton SHing on live literally within about 30 seconds of opening my eyes, everyone PLEASE be careful online today, I don’t know why it hasn’t been taken down

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"If I had abused her, would this kitchen be so spotless right now? Would the salt and pepper shakers be exactly 3/4 full? I mean, c'mon, if I were an abuser, would I be enjoying this perfectly cooked medium rare steak with the fat cut off ONLY AFTER IT'S OFF THE GRILL?! Preposterous."

Every woman has made dinner for their abuser. Every woman has cleaned for their abuser, raised kids for them, said yes when they desperately wanted to say no. Only an abuser would see compliance to abuse as consent. Also, the doctors said the child was abused. Listen to experts, not alcoholics.

I agree. Mine was gaslighting, verbal abuse, financial control, and occasional physical intimidation. You do what you have to do to make peace for your family. 20 years later out of the marriage and I still get triggered by things. This situation is a definite trigger.

💯 As someone who’s worked in DMV advocacy for many decades, leaving is the most dangerous time and, when possible, requires a safety plan. When children are a factor, even more so.

I accommodated his schedule and ran errands he was supposed to take care of when it related to our daughter. You do that because divorce does not equal protection when you live in proximity your abuser. When they tell you they will kill you, you believe them. If only victims were believed.

I had 2 children. For over 2 decades I walked on eggshells never knowing when or over what he’d explode. The kids learned how to placate him too. I hate myself that they had to learn that. I thought me bending to all his wants and not show distress would protect them, but they were damaged anyway.

Allison Gill@muellershewrote.com · 3d ago

I made dinner for my abuser a bunch of times. You have to play nice while you're planning your escape so you don't get dead. Max Miller is a textbook abuser.

Lawyers for Sen. Bernie Moreno’s daughter have filed a restraining order against her ex-husband, Rep. Max Miller whom she has accused of domestic abuse. Emily Moreno said in court Miller made physical contact with her attorney and “harassed and threatened” them. www.mediaite.com/media/news/b...

Emily Moreno's Lawyers Slap Restraining Order On Max Miller

Sen. Bernie Moreno's (R-OH) daughter has filed a restraining order against her ex-husband, Rep. Max Miller (R-OH) whom she has accused of domestic abuse.

mediaite.com

So, I used to help domestic violence survivors get civil protection orders. I can say confidently that the answer to every one of this jackass’s rhetorical questions about whether a “real” victim of domestic violence would behave toward an abuser the way his ex behaved toward him is… yes. 100%.

The Bulwark@thebulwark.com · 4d ago

Rep. Max Miller: "My former wife has claimed that during a custody exchange at my home that day, I assaulted her…If I had assaulted her, would she have offered to cook me dinner six days later?"