Addison Del Mastro

@ad-mastro.bsky.social

Writing with a focus on urbanism, culture, and popular history. I write The Deleted Scenes, a daily, mostly-urbanism newsletter on Substack. a.delmastro2@gmail.com.

Maybe less extreme but kids = suburbs is very much the default in Canada too. A lot of it comes down to housing. The “ideal” family home is detached with a yard. Even people open to apartments/condos often just can’t afford enough bedrooms for kids in central neighbourhoods of our bigger cities.

Laura G Mitchell@lauragmitchell.com · 4d ago

There is SUCH a strong cultural push for parents to raise kids in the suburbs in the US. It’s part of why I post boring photos/stories of our days, to show what raising kids in a city is really like. I genuinely think a lot of Americans don’t even entertain the idea & don’t know what’s possible.

As soon as you are going to be a parent your life gets *a lot* busier. And you don’t have time for pedantic debates or theoretical plans that may happen in a decade. You look at the reality that exists around you today and make decisions based on that. Parents have to be realistic and pragmatic

There's another timeline where urbanism is a Republican good fiscal policy thing, of maximizing profits and property tax revenue from urban cores and minimizing cost of providing municipal service per person, and opposed to Democratic NIMBYism. We're far from it though.

Something I'll never understand - if I want to make substantial enough changes to my house, it has to go through a neighbourhood consultation process, but someone on my block can buy a vehicle that significantly increases the chances one of my kids gets run over.

David Zipper@davidzipper.bsky.social · 5d ago

Which vehicles most endanger the drivers of other cars? Giant pickup trucks — and the Dodge Charger Source: www.iihs.org/news/detail/...

This is 💯 true. I have been the only/one of the only parent in the vast majority of advocacy spaces (esp ones that require more time - like nonprofit boards). But every parent I know cares about safe streets and their kids’ ability to get around safely & independently.

This is a really good and subtle point. For a lot of Americans "density" means exactly this: basically, overcrowded car dependence over comfier and more private car dependence. It's kind of obvious why you'd not want most of the costs of raw density without most of the benefits

Rene Astle 🇨🇦🌻@castle88.bsky.social · 4d ago

I would add that we tend to cram multi-family buildings along busy roads, at least in North America, so even if there were 3-bed apartments, families face a decision to move out or have their kids growing up on busy roads.

The perception that urbanism ignores kids is interesting. I kind of see it in transit world? But half of cycling BlueSky is Kidical Mass. @lauragmitchell.com and others. YIMBYs talk a lot about housing prices as a barrier to having kids. Single-stair helps family-sized apartments.

Addison Del Mastro@ad-mastro.bsky.social · 4d ago

American politics “un-bundles” these two issues in ways that can make it difficult to synthesize them, because of the distrust between left and right, and the mutual suspicion that each cause is a Trojan horse for a more radical cause.

There is SUCH a strong cultural push for parents to raise kids in the suburbs in the US. It’s part of why I post boring photos/stories of our days, to show what raising kids in a city is really like. I genuinely think a lot of Americans don’t even entertain the idea & don’t know what’s possible.