I've been very lucky & have mostly been well treated. But sometimes I think of all the composers I didn't study with, classes I left, gatherings I avoided. It makes me sad when I hear beautiful music/ideas/experiences from these ppl that weren't available to me or would have come at too high a cost.
Yes every woman has been harassed, many assaulted. But every woman has also experienced invisible loss from moments she avoided harassment. She felt a space becoming unsafe, so she left, while men stayed on. And in leaving, she lost: opportunities, experiences, learning, promotions, even simply fun.