Gillian (Jill)

@youdontknowjill.bsky.social

Married, queer, Midwestern. She/her. Made of sterner stuff, despite appearances. Not giving up anytime soon. 🏳️‍⚧️ 🏳️‍🌈

A PSA to my fellow cis people who are (or want to believe they are) trans allies If you are getting pushback from trans people and your reaction is to be all “no! not me! I’m one of the good ones!” please remember that “being one of the good ones” is something you DO, not something you ARE

This is a perfect encapsulation of what a complete fuck-up it was for America to put the country's reins back in the hands of people who are incapable of building great things and only know how to disrupt and demolish. RFK Jr doesn't want to engage in constructive debate but he also just **can't**.

Aaron Rupar@atrupar.com · 3d ago

BASH: How do you prepare for next pandemic? RFK Jr: We did almost everything wrong B: But what about now? K: We need to protect our rights B: ? K: During covid we dismantled our rights B: But I'm asking what *to* do K: You were part of the problem B: You want to sit here and attack me?

Interesting to see Missouri pass a (limited and conditional) rollback of felony disenfranchisement in the midst of all the other anti-democratic moves they're making. (Lots of felons will still be disenfranchised if their crimes were serious enough.)

Bolts@boltsmag.org · 6d ago

Missouri’s new elections reform bill includes changes beyond voting rights restoration; it also bans political campaigns from collecting automatic donations and disqualifies write-in votes for people who haven’t declared themselves write-in candidates.

I want you to repeat after me: NIMBYism leads to a cost of living crisis that results in mass trans suffering. YIMBYism allows trans people to flee to cities that welcome them, so they can be who they are, rebuild their lives, and contribute to the social and economic fabric.

Liberal Currents@liberalcurrents.com · last wk.

“There has been persecution in the form of increased social scrutiny, harassment and violence. And there has been persecution in the undercutting of access to vital, lifesaving gender-affirming medication despite the overwhelming medical consensus for it.” www.liberalcurrents.com/the-american...

Over the last week and a half thousands of Indians have taken to the street in unprecedented protests that have culminated in the resignation of the minister of education. The short version is that the results of a make or break exam taken by 150k people were arbitrarily annulled after leaks.

Storytime (mostly because I want a record of this for future reference): Up until last summer my MIL was living with her long-term boyfriend. He and his family all knew that I was trans and my MIL was always stalwart in her support for me.

There is media that I will defend practically endlessly (for instance, the show Community), but even at my most defensive I would be embarrassed as fuck to act this way. Come on, people, it's okay for people not to like the things you like.

libby watson@libbycwatson.com · 2w ago

we talked about family guy being bad on today's episode and, while i'm sorry to lose this fan, but patreon should not make exit surveys anonymous. i should be able to show up at your house and demand to see your PhD if you say this

patreon exit survey that says "I'm more educated than you and more successful than you and I like Family Guy"

This is your* reminder that right-wing groups have been signaling for literally the past decade that this is what they were planning on doing. Same-sex marriage was a lost fight, so trans people became the next wedge and sports was the easiest entry. *general "you" not OP

Jay Willis@jaywillis.net · 3w ago

I found this quote from Riley Gaines to be really striking. Straight-up conceding that the purpose of trans sports bans is to normalize transphobia, and to give "ordinary" people "more cover" expressing it in public. ballsandstrikes.substack.com/p/anti-trans...

In the paragraph that follows, I am going to briefly subject you to something that, if I were not writing a newsletter, I would not ask my worst enemy to read: insights from the mind of Riley Gaines, whose ability to parlay a fifth-place finish at a college swim meet into a career as an anti-trans podcaster is a tribute to what late-stage capitalism can accomplish.

“I think we’re going to continue to see movement and allow the people’s voice to be heard, especially in some of those purple states,” Gaines told Politico last month, after the Supreme Court in West Virginia v. B.P.J. upheld state lawmakers’ power to bar trans girls from playing women’s sports. “Each major decision gives your ordinary person more cover to say something that…was the standard, like the default position to take, really not that long ago.”

In other words, B.P.J. is not (only) about keeping girls like 16-year-old Becky Pepper-Jackson from playing on the same team as her friends. It is about empowering people to feel more comfortable expressing rank bigotry in public.

"A lot of America" is goddamn right. I think a lot of cis people don't understand the mental and emotional toll it takes to know how many people would rather people like you not exist and would even take action to that end. To know that as a teenager? That's absolutely brutal.

Mike Hixenbaugh@mikehixenbaugh.com · 3w ago

A father in Idaho, speaking to police after his child died by suicide: “There is a huge amount of animosity, every single day, thrown at trans kids. The whole fucking country. The whole fucking administration, every single fucking day.” Please read this important story by @joyurcaba.bsky.social

Most engineering orgs - and I flatter them using that word - measure productivity by how much *stuff* teams ship. This is to fundamentally mis-characterise software development. It's not a delivery process. We're not Uber Eats. It's a *learning* process. And the biggest factor is feedback latency

I hope that someone is writing a long read about the month after Charlie Kirk died and the collective psychosis experienced by white people on the Right & embarrassed white Liberals. It will be important to document the calm and incredulous responses by Black people and some other POC in comparison.

This is especially maddening when it comes to trans people, who (when we were allowed access to care) had an uneasy arrangement to use facilities, update birth certificates, etc. if we could meet certain conditions. Now that we're more visible, that informal arrangement has been revoked.

mallow@bajablastenjoyer.bsky.social · 4w ago

if you point to a century ago and go "well they had it worse then" i will drive this car off a cliff with both of us in it, i can remember how much better it was *in my own lifetime* and that's what i'm referring to