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@martymcflown.bsky.social

30s (scare chord). Wannabe artist. He/him/they/pronouns make me want to wriggle from my mortal frame. I make thumbnails for @ophiedokie Youtube: @MartyMcFlownYT Linktree: https://linktr.ee/martymcflown Business email: martymcflowndesigns@gmail.com

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Lola Sebastian@lola.nebula.tv · 2h ago

survivors are also frequently encouraged to "speak out" and "start conversations" in order to "change the world" but we receive nothing but harrassment, suspicion, and hate for doing so. i grieve so often for the girl i was during MeToo who truly believed that things were soon to get better.

Marty@martymcflown.bsky.social · 2h ago

Feeling actually sick at the amount of people I admired turning out to be exactly the type to throw vulnerable people under the bus if it serves them. Just continues to show that no amount of "good work" someone does can excuse the harms done when there's zero accountability.

Faine Greenwood@faineg.com · 4d ago

Women trying to succeed in Silicon Valley AI and effective altruist spaces are reporting feeling serious social pressure to attend sex parties - where people have reported being sexually assaulted, like below. Events like Aella’s “Slutcon,” which is happening again this weekend.

Ann Pierce @itsannpierce 20h I am disheartened by this as well. I already lost a bunch of followers for agreeing with @tautologer, but it's saddening to see local nerdy women being caricatured as Karen-like outsiders and getting pushed out of the scene. This is exactly why you hear so few concrete, names-attached stories of sexual harrassment and assault. I'm told there is a history of discrediting these because the "slut normalization" thing is top priority and these stories get inconveniently in the way of spreading this ideology. I got roped into attending last year's Saturday Slutcon party because so many local and out-of-town friends were there (to echo sentiments @tautologer expressed about "slut events becoming central to the larger scenes). Mostly I hung out with people I knew and that was great. But in the course of my 3-ish hours there, there were 2 times my "no" was not accepted by a man I didn't know, and I was physically pushing a huge guy off of me who was rubbing his penis on me, who continued to do it despite my physical force against him, and after I finally wriggled away from him, told him I wanted to dance alone etc., he came back and did it again. This was scary and bad, but it didn't even cross my mind to report this because one of the other people who didn't accept my "no" earlier in the night was the bartender (an officially sanctioned authority at the event), and I knew the event was organized exclusively by women into CNC (who are vocal about how rapey behavior turns them on), so I figured this sort of thing would just get me laughed at. And anyway, I heard there were a lot of other incidents like it. Later though, someone encouraged me to report this story to the organizers, and despite my embarrassment I did, so *they know* that this and other incidents happened. This is why they cut the Saturday night party this year and created a larger training program for the flirt girls - *because* of things like this last year. Yet the narrative bein…People who haven't been to Slutcon are saying "it's just group therapy," "it's just innocent flirting." But the environment is much like a sex party in that many people are nude, there is making out and sex acts happening out in the open. I think it's pretty unreasonable to expect that every nerdy girl who likes rationalist bloggers or is into EA/AI safety should automatically be comfortable with this! That if she's not, there's something wrong with her, we don't want her in our scenes, etc. Not to mention, it's explictly an event *for men*, where men are the clients and the "flirt girls" are the product. Last year I overheard an exchange where a man felt "led on" by a flirt girl and was trying to get her punished/kicked out. (A dynamic that seems inevitable in this context!) Anyway- it does sound like they've upped their consent education a lot this year, are more organized, and that's good! As I've told my friends who are attending: I hope they have fun! I heard several accounts last year of women who had no problems and really enjoyed the event. That's great! Just... can we live in reality about this? There are real reasons why male-female sexual dynamics are tricky. Encouraging autistic men who can't yet read body language to go around asking to see womens' boobs is maybe a bit ill-advised. Maybe not everyone should be/identify as a slut; maybe it's not for everyone. And yeah, filtering the Bay Area Al safety scene down to only women who are super comfy with this eliminates *most* women - including many of the really smart, nerdy, weird women who've been in the larger scenes for years. What a loss for humanity. I absolutely understand why people with a minority sexuality would want to create belonging, would want to create spaces for people like themselves. But why do it like this/at this cost?
Little Shop of Ali@lilshopofali.bsky.social · last wk.

It’s genuinely fascinating to me how much of a lightning rod Sabrina Carpenter is for certain feminists. Like I do not think anyone is above criticism and no one has to like her but the complete unwillingness to unpack their obvious internalized misogyny is wild

cyber disposables@twen.bsky.social · 2mo ago

If I see someone walking around in this stuff I’m giving them the same stink eye and wide berth I do the proud boys when they roll into town. Ew. Gross. Cross the street.

🎃 Killy Witches 👻@tillybridges.bsky.social · 2mo ago

Unique Vintage just decided potential bigot dollars are more important than my human rights welcome to being trans in 2026 please let them know this is unacceptable to you, ESPECIALLY if you’re cis: service@uniquevintage.com

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Marty@martymcflown.bsky.social · 3mo ago

Personally I think the real complaint about Helen of Troy's casting is that they didn't even bother sending out a casting call for any half-swan freaks. I have been waiting all my life, Mr. Nolan.