I love all of this conversation, partly because I too am no longer interested in the question of separating the art from the artist, precisely because once I know an artist is abusive, I can no longer engage with their art without factoring that in. Also because I can't give money to living abusers.
It's hard. "Can you separate the art from the artist"--I got asked that 1 million times in the last decade. It took a long time but I came up with my answer to that Kobayashi Maru dilemma. Talked about it with @colehaddon.bsky.social in 5am Storytalk in 2024: colehaddon.substack.com/p/q-and-a-jo...