new transfeminist/disability writer saying hi hi! i'm madi (she/her). i'm looking to share my political writing, covering transfeminism, physiological disability, and psychiatric disability (1/2) #transfeminism #disability #substack

I just shared a heartfelt text on Substack on my raw experience of being a maternal incest survivor as an autistic trans woman. "On dying a little bit everyday with no end in sight" offers unmediated access to the depths of my current state of mind. It stinks, it bites—read at your own risk only.

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On dying a little bit everyday with no end in sight I need my mom. It hurts so much. I am about to be thirty-seven and I need my mom. I need a mom I never had, and won't ever have. Truth is, I am hur...

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The treatment of AMAB survivors of childhood sexual abuse (inc. non-genital forms of incest) IS PROOF enough that there are MANY issues on which EVIL patriarchy and PRISTINE cisfeminism not only work hand-in-hand together, but actually gleefully so. A reminder that we JUDGE systems at what they do.

it was a woman who violated me as a child and it was older girls who forced themselves on me growing up and it was other women who groped me w/o consent when I started HRT and it was a woman who tried to rape me. this is one of those weeks where i'm reminded that I live in another universe

> No account is suspended or removed without human oversight. there you have it. every trans woman banned by staff was manual and not automated. someone on the team decided that a woman complaining about being harassed for her rape was worth being banned for and sent that out as an email

Bluesky Safety@safety.bsky.app · 6mo ago

We use automated systems to help identify repetitive content such as spam. Nuanced violations, such as harassment, always involve human review by our moderation team. No account is suspended or removed without human oversight.

like being real the only actual solid predictor of transition success is money. being an obstinate little bitch that locks in really hard will get you far for sure but that doesn't and can't make up for material reality. if you are loaded you can speedrun passing in 3-4 years. that's just true

I have a new article out in Sexualities on cisfeminism, or feminist transphobia that is not straightforwardly 'TERF'. Honestly, I feel a bit weird promoting this article in the middle of all this horror. But I do think the section on epistemic practice touches (cont) doi.org/10.1177/1363...

Exactly but also, people who draw "manly" trans women want to claim subversiveness for themselves, they just don't want to be seen as AMAB cos they have conflicting cisfeminist thoughts abt it. So they do self inserts on fictional trans women, like how cishet women use BL for relationship fantasies

Pear Smoothie🍐🥤@pearsmoothie.bsky.social · 4mo ago

The reason they do not actually want to pass as men while retaining the label "men" for themselves is they have been drilled into their heads by radfems that being a man is a sin: Not due to patriarchal behaviour, but being the "shape of man" that "threatens womenfolk with rape just by being there".

What else is there, than ostracizing the accused? Organization. The very thing we’re bad at. Proactively protect the members of your community, including the accused. Negotiate apologies, restitution, and boundaries to prevent further abuse. Resolve the issue, and then let it lie. 16/

Do you know what happens, when a person who’s deeply terrified of being an abuser gets put in a position of power? Often, abuse happens. Not because the person was right about their nature; but because their fear blinds them to their own actions. Every error is a potential ego threat. 11/

I actually did find myself arguing from the Not All Men side more than once. I was a closeted trans woman at the time, and harbored quite a lot of shame over the impulses of my body, being raised in a patriarchal purity culture. It was deeply important to me to not be seen as an innate abuser. 8/

I think this is what the most principled of the Not All Men folks think they’re saying: many people still subscribe to the penis = evil model of gender, and that’s harms everyone. We need to make sure we’re modeling the conflict at the material and structural level, not at the ontological level. 6/

Obviously, the truth is that gender qua gender has nothing to do with it. The modal rapist is a cis man because patriarchy ensures cis men have structural power over everyone else. Cis men are not “naturally” or “biologically” predisposed to rape. Rather, they are inducted into a rape culture. 5/

As far as the queers went, we of course allied on the “not cis men” side, as was right and proper. :3 But because MeToo was predominantly a cis movement, its effects broadly reinforced cisgenderism. If you think gender is immutable, and you think men are rapists, then manhood itself is poisonous.

So in essence: this argument only works if you are perpetually stuck in a loop where you are pointing out how cishet relationships suck for women but never beyond it. They cannot imagine people outside of their cisheterosexual misery, whether by social conditioning or not, can exist in a viable way.

"I didn't want to transition at first because I was the only short haired tomboy-butch lesbian etc and I wanted to be an example of progressive and powerful women" Too many trans men say this. Cishets are fucking lazy. They are piggybacking off trans people even in their own cishet gender wars.

Pear Smoothie🍐🥤@pearsmoothie.bsky.social · 4mo ago

On that note I would really appreciate if more tmascs/tmen could overcome the fear of T and get on with it. It's bloody despressing when people who have the resources and opportunity just let their dream life thrown into the bin because of cisfeminism while they fuckin know they're dysphoric. Fuck.

Challenging the very cishet ASAB standards is a revolutionary act in itself. Trans women who want to pass accidentally having standards that match the society's standards for cis women, and not wanting to be seen with fucking beards is not an attack on GNC ppl. I hope ppl are less daft about this.

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Carrie-Edmund Laben@carrielaben.com · last yr.

The problem is that they imagine a set of "good" gender roles in contrast to, or even protecting against, the "bad" fascist gender roles, just like they imagine good cops that protect against bad cops.

Cis-ness as wounded attachment is an incisive take: “In a politics of woundedness, mobilisation against an apparently threatening ‘other’ can seem like justice, even when that ‘other’ is another, perhaps even more, marginalised group.”

Fran Amery@franamery.bsky.social · 2y ago

I have a new article out in Sexualities on cisfeminism, or feminist transphobia that is not straightforwardly 'TERF'. Honestly, I feel a bit weird promoting this article in the middle of all this horror. But I do think the section on epistemic practice touches (cont) doi.org/10.1177/1363...

Imagine that this a take that will get you cancelled in many supposedly ' 'queer', 'queer-friendly', 'feminist' & 'progressive' spaces. It really shows how much neoliberal culture destroyed critical thinking skills and obliterated most class consciousness organized around shared material realities.

If you aren't aware, Turkey is going through a terrifying authoritarian anti-LGBT crackdown at the hands of Erdogan's ruling party. Turkish trans people have already been seeking asylum elsewhere and need our support ❤️‍🩹

Nerio Fenix@nerio-fenix.bsky.social · 4mo ago

#ZoeLila is a #TransWoman who lost her job as a teacher in #Istanbul #Turkey #turkiye after being targeted because of her identity. Please share her story, talk about Zoe! turkeyunfolding.com/trans-teache...

We live in a batshit crazy world. And of all the crazy things I can think about right now, tribalism is the one that terrifies the most. Yes, it speaks of my experiences. Yes, it speaks of my biases too. Yes, it’s perhaps not the most dangerous. I am honestly more and more scared by this world. Ugh.

[Survey] Trans(sex) ppl of bluesky who experienced leftist, progressive or 'woke' transphobia: ⒈ How was it transphobic? [ʙᴇʜᴀᴠɪᴏʀ] ⒉ What's distinctive about it? [ᴅᴇꜰɪɴɪᴛɪᴏɴ] ⒊ In which context(s) & with which types of ppl? [ꜱᴏᴄɪᴏʟᴏɢʏ] ⒋ Which arguments or takes was it associated to? [ɪᴅᴇᴏʟᴏɢʏ]

To their defense most cis people never interacted with transsex ones. It's thus unsurprising if they identify 'trans' with the non-transitioning cissexed folx. For this group, being trans is mostly a socio-political stance mainly divorced from material reality & analysis. In other words: a costume 😕

eli shroom's altered ego@shroompunk.com · last mo.

i think many of them see our identities as a costume we can remove and wait til later to wear again. I've had a number of cis people suggest i just be a man in private and don't tell anyone. even beyond the closet being torture, the hell am i gonna do, surgically reinstall boobs and take E? fuck no.

One of the most striking analytical reframing I recall stumbling upon emphasized that you don’t get to choose *is* and *isn’t* feminism. All are. I‘d add that if we look at ‘feminism‘ as a big incestuous family, a lot of problematic behaviors and harmful dynamics immediately start to make sense.

Anna Leigh 🏳️‍⚧️@annatleigh.bsky.social · last mo.

I know many trans women try hard to recuperate feminism, or to dismiss these issues with "well that's not _true_ feminism". But I just think it's a losing battle. Non-transitioning afabs will always have the upper hand; the last word -- especially if they phrase it as wholesome inclusionism.

It’s so exactly that. Entitled pseudo-‘revolutionary’ and pretentiously ‘systemic’ takes, which in fact hide a considerable ignorance of the world and ACTUAL systemic analysis skills (!!!), fueled by the putrid desire for simple one-size-fits-all fixes alongside moral superiority EVERY FUCKING TIME.

Briar Rolfe: TRANS INSURGENT@briar-rolfe.bsky.social · last mo.

And anyway, it’s kind of rich for white people of any gender to sit around saying “if we could only get rid of that evil class that rules by ceaseless violence and oppression. Then, the world would finally be Good”

This is why trans solidarity is the most important thing to me. It’s really easy to hate and denounce the gender you were assigned at birth until you see how it liberates someone you love. I love femininity because it is good for the girls I love. I love masculinity because it is good for me!

Maybe we need to have a big sit-down as a community and like, discuss the difference between masculinity and patriarchy and how not every culture performs masculinity the way America does, because like… holy shit

George has another banger article about ME. ME/CFS, POTS, MCAS and EDS are all neglected illnesses by our systems. ME can kill. It's like brushing AIDS under the radar. Look after the people with ME in your life. Believe them. Give them mutual aid. Even if they cannot speak, be there for them.

Abandoned, dismissed and gaslighted: there is no excuse for the way ME sufferers have been betrayed | George Monbiot

Changes in guidance and science seem to have little impact on millions of devastated lives. It’s a social crisis playing out behind closed doors, says Guardian columnist George Monbiot

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I have been banned form r/AskFeminists Oh gee it was quick. It's quite tantalizing how incredibly fragile cis white American liberal feminists are (the dominant kind on Reddit). It's pathetic. I understand better the cis hate now. It's poisonous, but those cissies are quite responsible though.