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Martha Crawford (@whatahshrinkthinks) collecting bereavement, mourning&mortality dreams,visions of an “after-life”, visitation experiences, & near-death-experiences that underscore our relationship to mortality

No it’s so sad. I had an awful and very sad dream about a week ago that I was walking and chatting with Patrick Stewart and that he had died the next day (in my dream). I was so relieved when I woke up and checked the news to see it wasn’t true. I’m really welling up here. What a loss

strange dream where my house was haunted by a malevolent spirit who wanted. a cup of milk. and i had to go to the graveyard the person who died got buried in with the cup to go hand it to the corpse. and sung a necromancy incantation -0

had a vivid dream that my paternal grandfather was haunting the house my dad grew up in and the family living there now expected me to do something about it despite never having met him (he died 20+ years before I was born)

Grief by Anna Ancher, 1902. Ancher said the image came in a dream: “I saw under a cross in a graveyard a meeting of a mother & daughter. The mother kneeled & the daughter bent over her. One of them had died. This meeting in the graveyard was so vivid for me that the next day I started to paint it.”

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This was from dream I had a few nights ago. My father had lost his sense of taste and smell (and therefore appetite) after hip surgery a few years before he died, becoming quite thin. In my dream he was healthy and happy. 🙂

I had a Steve Albini dream the other night. We were in the studio working on something and I was like “hey it was weird when you died a few years ago.” He gestured towards the mixing console and said “OK. Back to work”

Had a long, relaxing but sad dream that I’d died and been allocated an afterlife environment that was intensely American affluent boomer nostalgia - lots of modernist lakeside houses. I didn’t like it.

Drawing of a woman I met in a dream I had. We met in a labyrinth in the afterlife, neither of us remembering how we perished. It was only when we reached the center that the memories returned to her--and as we died our second deaths, she whispered: "It tastes like the wine to which I succumbed."

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When I was younger, I had a recurring dream of seeing my own dead body being prepared for burial and sometimes I still have it -- not as often, but I do. After reading Jake Dorothy's excellent paper on applying the bereavement literature to "death of the self" after trauma, wow. Art is brewing.

More than 25 years ago, I wrote a poem about my memories of celebrating Dia de Los Muertos as a 5 year old boy in Detroit's Mexicantown neighborhood, staying over with my godmother's family, the Cavazoses, for my birthday weekend. 20 years ago, I published it in a chapbook, The Bridge and the River:

An Ode, on Dia de los Muertos
by Timothy Carmody

1. Candle


O Death, on this, the day of dead,
As Demeter mourns at th’immortal pyre,
We show you as you are, grotesque;
With masks of skulls, of caulk and wire,
We light our votive candles’ fire.
From he whose pow’r was heaven sent,
We take this day our sacrament.

The fire too is smoke and ash, 
A child’s death, another’s birth;
From ourselves we’ve had to wash
The dream of living without hurt.
With bodies, too, come dung and dirt.
There is only the choice of pyre or pyre—
To be redeemed from fire by fire.
2. Mexicantown


On summer Sundays we took communion 
at Holy Redeemer. When church broke
we ran down Vernor Hwy to Clark Park,

Past the bodegas we just called stores
if we didn’t know them by name.
Miguel lived on Christiancy, 
which was faster; I liked Vernor

Where we could see Rosa skipping 
double-dutch, and where old Manuel
gave us baseball cards and taffee, 
and warned me about las mujeres.

The men would watch their sons
from the Clark Street stoops,
kept mothers inside while we stained
church clothes with grass and sweat.

A double to right field – I lost
my shoes rounding first base,
took off my socks and played barefoot.
After baseball, sliced oranges
and sweet raisins, reruns of Sanford and Son
or Chico and the Man. We hung sheets

Over doorways, ran fans to keep cool.
Miguel’s mother, my godmother,
stroked my hair until I fell asleep.

After summer, Dia De Los Muertos,
when we’d light candles and laugh at death.
We took the long walk from Holy Redeemer
to Holy Cross, the cemetery, praying

For Rosa’s father, Manuel’s wife,
Willie Hernandez (who wasn’t dead),
and Novia, Miguel’s sister who died 
still a baby—who had clear blue eyes—
Our angelitos, our saints. 
When I returned years later,
The milkweed still grew, and I drew

A self-portrait beneath the Ambassador Bridge.
The miracle of art is its rediscovery of the real, 
That every day it breaks bread anew
With the mountains and hollows of our memory,

And memory always seems lacking.
We blessed ourselves and came away.
I held the bat tighter, it cracked in my hand.

Had a dream about tapping into ancient Mayan powers before realizing that was NOT for me and accidentally awakening the spirits of dead warriors. Oopsie doopsie. Giant ball of nerves and period cramps today. Will today be the beginning of the end (delightful) or the beginning of the end (ominous)?

Our relationship to mortality is a both a cultural and a personal relationship - if you have had dreams or visions where the dead appear, or about an after-life or an NDE you are welcome to share them at the Collective Dreaming archive tag @dreamsofourdead.bsky.social or submit anonymously:

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Last night I dreamt that there was a new Pixar movie called "Whalefall", featuring cute, animated versions of the nightmare creatures that live in the deep sea. It was about a new community growing around the dead whale as they all feast on the carcass, and it was somehow very sweet and wholesome.

Every Halloween I'd light a candle outside. Leave out some food and drink. And I'd think about the dead. From the time the candle was lit till the time it went out, I was out there thinking. Holding our dead close. And then I'd go to bed. And in 2022 I dreamt of my grandfather.

i actually dreamt of him this night (never have before) and it was a get together/party to celebrate him - everyone knew he is dead, including him. it wasnt sad. at some point i was crying in his arms tho he was silent but i knew he is at peace and now I just stood in my kitchen crying

Geo 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧@georginoschka.bsky.social · 2w ago

he was always present in my life somehow bcs i grew up with [the man who made me] always watching star trek and i remember liking it bcs of stewart and his role and x-men of course, such a big impact on me changed my life idk idk what to say but i think thank you

Dreamt my mother was doing the "I'm in trouble" call. Was up with my feet on the ground before I was awake enough to remember: she's dead. I don't miss that part.

Had a dream that I had died several days previously but was still dimly visible to people, and was terribly afraid I’d fade once they solved my murder. I got a job at the Cambridge University Library, who ‘didn’t mind that I was dead, as long as I knew about collections management’.

last night had a dream that i was driving fast to catch up with the egyptian god Sobek (crocodile head guy) who was at the time transporting the soul of a dead pharaoh to the afterlife using some sort of egyptian funereal longboat car, because we needed to ask the pharaoh permission to use his dock