insert one of my favourite tweets of all time. the whole “protector” thing men keep imagining they are/want to become is based on a male fantasy created for their ego and approval of other men. women are just the tools they use for that— what we ACTUALLY want is, quite famously, always ignored.
i worry that men think being A Good Guy is dramatically and heroically intervening on behalf of an endangered woman and then being publicly rewarded on a grand scale when actually being A Good Guy is just usually saying, “hey man that’s not funny” or “wow that’s fucked up” and there is no reward