The Grey Rainbow
@thegreyrainbow.bsky.social
The blogged musings of a middle aged demisexual man. Exploring the challenges and joys of being aspec. No longer updated and will be deleted some time in 2026. Please see pinned. he/him therainbowisgrey.wordpress.com Main account: @chaoticauthor.online
I will no longer update this BlueSky account. Unlikely I'll ever write a post for the blog again. ICYMI, I have terminal cancer and wish to use whatever writing time I have left for my fiction. I write mixed genre horror and fantasy. Follow me over at @chaoticauthor.online
Today begins Asexual Awareness Week, my favorite week. Finding out I'm asexual was a godsend. When I discovered I'm asexual at age 26, I finally felt like the puzzle pieces fit together. The Ace community helped give me the words to understand myself. I'm forever grateful to the Ace Community!
a person holding a purple and black flag in a grassy field
ALT: a person holding a purple and black flag in a grassy field
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So important! We all get along better when we understand and empathize with the complexity of humans versus trying to shove people in little boxes they don’t fit in.
The Grey Rainbow@thegreyrainbow.bsky.social · 12mo ago#AceWeek Men's voices are often overlooked in this community. I write about my own experiences to show other men out there who are ace/demi or think they might be ace/demi, that they are not alone. They are not broken or weird for not feeling what the men around them seem to feel. Society 1/2
For #aceweek, I would like people to know that demisexuals are ace-spec. I have only liked two people (that I knew for two years before attraction started) in my entire life. Outside of that, I don't really get attraction and have always felt out of place. Why shouldn't I count as ace then?
#AceWeek Men's voices are often overlooked in this community. I write about my own experiences to show other men out there who are ace/demi or think they might be ace/demi, that they are not alone. They are not broken or weird for not feeling what the men around them seem to feel. Society 1/2
Hey it’s #AceWeek! 🖤🩶🤍💜 More people should realize that asexual advocacy isn’t just “people trying so hard to be oppressed becauss they’re loudly single.” 🧵 🪡 1 / 7
For those who don't follow my main account... 🧵 TL;DR version is that I was hospitalised on Monday with suspected appendicitis. But I have cancer of the pancreas
Matt Mason - One Chaotic Author@chaoticauthor.online · last yr.THE POST I NEVER WANTED TO WRITE On Monday I was hospitalised after having severe abdominal cramps, no appetite, a mild fever and a racing pulse. After a CT scan a couple of days ago, it seems I have pancreatic cancer. They're keeping me in until Monday for a full biopsy and then see where 1/3
For almost 25 years, AVEN has been working to help ace and aro people across the globe understand themselves and promote open, honest public understanding of our experience. In that time we've had a tremendous impact, and we're asking for your support to fund the next two years of our work.
When we understand that our history is diverse, it changes our outlook. I hope that this Black History Month, we all take the time to uncover the history lessons we were denied in school https://www.wearequeeraf.com/how-many-more-generations-will-be-denied-black-queer-history-before-we-take-action/
How many more generations will be denied Black queer history before we take action?
When we understand that our history is diverse, it changes our outlook. I hope that this Black History Month, we all take the time to uncover the history lessons we were denied in school
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At long last, here is my take on Interview with the Vampire, queer time, and the existential horrors of asexual yearning. It also happens to be my 50th blog post (though it’s become a full-length essay)! 🩸🍷💀 🖤 🧛♀️ worrydollsandfloatinglights.wordpress.com/2025/10/01/i...
Interview with the Vampire and Asexual Loneliness
“I can tell you about it, enclose it with words that will make the value of it to me evident to you. But I can’t tell you exactly, any more than I could tell you exactly what is the exp…
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I love this thorough review of Being Demi from @aspiraldance.bsky.social! Thank you so much, Amanda. This poetry and essay collection chronicles my demisexual coming out journey. Five days until release... 🌈🖊️💻 aspiraldance.com/ad-review-of-being-demi-by-mg-mason/
AD| Review of Being Demi by MG Mason - A Spiral Dance
Being Demi is a short but powerful read full of poems and essays about coming out as demisexual later in life.
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My poetry and essay collection is out today! Check out the buying links...
Matt Mason - One Chaotic Author@chaoticauthor.online · last yr.RELEASE DAY! Demisexuality is a complex little understood sexuality, often confused with idealised social expectations. This short collection of poems and essays is my story. 🌈📚💙📚👀📢📚💙📚🪐♠️🌈📚 mybook.to/beingdemi books2read.com/beingdemi ko-fi.com/s/5458cdcfdf onechaoticauthor.itch.io/being-demi
Eep! I have a new book out tomorrow 😍 This one is available wide from the start. Will also be available on Ko-Fi and Itch.
Matt Mason - One Chaotic Author@chaoticauthor.online · last yr.Demisexuality: a complex little understood sexuality, often confused with idealised social expectations. I came out three years ago. This collection of poems and essays is a personal and intimate look at my personal journey. 🌈📚💙📚👀📢📚💙📚🪐♠️🌈📚 PREORDER HERE mybook.to/beingdemi books2read.com/beingdemi
Asexuality is a spectrum, and all of us who fall somewhere on that spectrum have different relationships with sex and sexual attraction https://www.wearequeeraf.com/asexuality-is-a-spectrum-that-answered-a-lifetime-of-questions/
Asexuality is a spectrum that answered a lifetime of questions
Asexuality is a spectrum, and all of us who fall somewhere on that spectrum have different relationships with sex and sexual attraction
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Love this! And wow I resonate deeply with that last takeaway about punishing self for crushes even if they’re queerplatonic, about wanting closeness with friends in a world that reduces and restricts what affection is allowed. Thanks for sharing! Keeping an eye out for when this book comes out!
The Grey Rainbow@thegreyrainbow.bsky.social · last yr.I love this thorough review of Being Demi from @aspiraldance.bsky.social! Thank you so much, Amanda. This poetry and essay collection chronicles my demisexual coming out journey. Five days until release... 🌈🖊️💻 aspiraldance.com/ad-review-of-being-demi-by-mg-mason/
I love this thorough review of Being Demi from @aspiraldance.bsky.social! Thank you so much, Amanda. This poetry and essay collection chronicles my demisexual coming out journey. Five days until release... 🌈🖊️💻 aspiraldance.com/ad-review-of-being-demi-by-mg-mason/
AD| Review of Being Demi by MG Mason - A Spiral Dance
Being Demi is a short but powerful read full of poems and essays about coming out as demisexual later in life.
aspiraldance.com
Being proud of your aspec identity can take a number of different forms.
"How do I feel pride in my asexuality when it's only created struggles?"
Pride can contain all of queerness's complexity.
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A new investigation has revealed significant lobbying efforts by gender critical groups. https://www.wearequeeraf.com/freedom-of-information-request-uncovers-gender-critical-bias-within-ehrc/
Freedom of information request uncovers gender critical bias within EHRC
A new investigation has revealed significant lobbying efforts by gender critical groups.
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My article criticising Charlie Kirk's narrow definition of masculinity got 100 views overnight (I wrote it following his debates with Oxford and Cambridge students). The reason why the article is now popular is unfortunate, because the subject (harmful social expectations placed on men) is the 1/2
Charlie Kirk’s Definition of Masculinity is Everything That’s Wrong With It
Charlie Kirk was recently in Britain and given free reign to spout whatever nonsense came into his head.
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Peter Capaldi's Doctor being an asexual icon. Doctor: "You look taller." Clara, all dolled up for a date: "I'm wearing heels." Doctor: "Do you need to reach something on a high shelf?" Clara, walking out the door: "Must go or I'll be late" Doctor: "Late for a shelf?" [TIME HEIST]
My demisexual poetry and essays collection is now available for preorder...
Matt Mason - One Chaotic Author@chaoticauthor.online · last yr.Demisexuality: a complex little understood sexuality, often confused with idealised social expectations. I came out three years ago. This collection of poems and essays is a personal and intimate look at my personal journey. 🌈📚💙📚👀📢📚💙📚🪐♠️🌈📚 PREORDER HERE mybook.to/beingdemi books2read.com/beingdemi
Happy Bi Visibility Month! I don't know if I will ever consider myself bi. I'm attracted to more than one gender, but feel the need to be more specific that I'm aesthetically attracted to femininity and androgyny with the capacity for romantic and sexual attraction (subject to the usual demi bond)
The Grey Rainbow@thegreyrainbow.bsky.social · 2y agoSince learning about Neptunic Attraction and identifying with it, I've started to broaden my mind and what attraction means. I'm really only now starting to grasp what a broad spectrum attraction it can be for many of us. 🌈🖊️💻
I'm now offering ARCs (advanced review copies) of my collection of poems and essays "Being Demi". This chronicles my demisexual coming out journey, from feeling awkward and different in adolescence through to coming out and being welcomed into the community three years ago.
Being Demi now has a Good Reads page! No pressure and no obligation, but I'd appreciate it if some feedback readers would be kind enough to pen some early reviews (no pressure, however!). www.goodreads.com/book/show/24...
Being Demi: Acrostic poetry and essays chronicling my d…
Coming out later in life presents its own challenges, a…
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I've read quite a bit of Matt's acrostic poetry under Luana's @luanagiunta.bsky.social daily acrostic challenge # LuaViEr and I'm absolutely sure that this will be great. Matt has a knack for it (although it took him a while to realise that 😄). If #poetry is your thing, give it a bash. 👀📚💙🌈📚♠️📚🌈📚📢
The Grey Rainbow@thegreyrainbow.bsky.social · last yr.Further details of my upcoming project "Being Demi", my life coming to demisexuality told through acrostic poetry and essays. This project has come out of nowhere, and I'm excited to release it in just over a month. 🌈🖊️💻
Further details of my upcoming project "Being Demi", my life coming to demisexuality told through acrostic poetry and essays. This project has come out of nowhere, and I'm excited to release it in just over a month. 🌈🖊️💻
Announcement: Being Demi, a Collection of Poems and Essays
Announcing a new poetry and non-fiction project to be released in October.
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Attention! My demisexual poetry and essays book will be released in October. Have submitted it for pre-order.
Matt Mason - One Chaotic Author@chaoticauthor.online · last yr.Had a couple of lovely emails with feedback already. Decided to unleash this on the world in early October.
the tightrope of writing an awareness of sex while writing an asexual novel while watching sex education documentaries while being personally sex-repulsed while deconstructing purity culture while questioning why purity culture and sexual liberation both express such disdain for asexuals