One core element of this I see that is that in cis people eyes, being trans is so often presented as something internal. Being trans isn’t conceptualised as lived experience to them, it’s something internal and psychological
Cis people don’t understand what it is to be trans. Something that I’ve really come to the conclusion of, is it’s such a complex and still marginal experience in society, even the most well meaning progressive cis person can’t really grasp it.